subject: Ways for Young People to Overcome Social Anxiety [print this page] Ways for Young People to Overcome Social Anxiety
Social anxiety, from a pick-up artist/players standpoint, is among the leading causes of failure for guys just entering thegame. In the world of seduction, it is a frustrating and mocking disease. Many beginners fall victim to social anxiety; causing them to become frustrated, angry, and eventually skeptical of thegame itself.
"Thegame doesn't work"
"Guys get girls because of luck, that's it"
"She'll talk to me eventually"
Sound familiar? Of course it does! Unless you are a naturally social person, in which conversation comes comfortably with strangers, then you have either thought or spoken the above phrases aloud. I know I have. But I, like many others, was just another victum of social anxiety.
What a lot of beginners don't take into acount, including myself when I was at that point, is that it isn't something that sneeks up on you quietly. Nor is it something that you can notice and avoid. It is a self-created barrier that hits you in the moment, and when it hits, it hitshard. For a lot of people, game or no game, when social anxiety develops in themoment, it is inescapable. Nervous body language starts to develop, suddenly you feel defensive. Finally, in a panic of what to do or what to say, your brain activity triples. Suddenly there are so many options of what to do, how to act, and what to say. But if you say that thing you wont sound cool. Maybe you should lean against wall like this. Wow, wow, wow. Since when did all my options become so negative. I don't really like the pants I'm wearing now. I should have gone for that haircut - - Damn - - That girl's hot, I should talk to her. But she's with too many friends. They'll get in my way. You know what?
"I'll try again some other time" [Exit - Stage left]
That's what it comes down to. For someone with social anxiety there is always some other time. There is always an excuse not to do something. But who can blame them, I mean, it's tough to go out there and chat-it-up with complete strangers. And that is where the point of my post comes in. Beginners must be aware that one of the few things that you should mentally prepare for before playing the field is social interaction. Not preparing for social interaction has lead to the delay/downfall of what could have been amazing pick-up artists/players.
Being comfortable with strangers and conversation is key to success in the field. Any PUA/Player will tell you this. The easiest advice to give to young guys just starting out is to get a part-time job in which it is manditory to converse with strangers. Other social events like parties and even school are good practice grounds for dealing with social anxiety, but those are grounds with options. You have the option not to talk to people at school or parties; and if you are a beginner dealing with social anxiety, that is most likely the option you will choose.
Work is different.
At most jobs you are forced into being social. Whether it is telling a customer where a specific product is, or having to deal with those chatty customers who talk to you about their life problems while they are buying their groceries at the checkout. Either one, you are gaining social experience with strangers.
Over time it will become easier to respond to questions. Providing an answer will become instantaneous - natural. You will also notice general conversation will feel more natural as well. Everything you gain at the job site, especially your pay, will help you in your effort to play yourgame.
Thanks guys.
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This article was first published on the Seduction University Forums.
