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Are you in a relationship that has recently broken up? Or maybe you it has been a few years since your went sour. Regardless of the scenario, being in a breakup is not one of the things that we want to look forward to. This is because any breakup is accompanied by feelings of hopelessness, loneliness, reservations, regret, anger and even depression. Researchers into relationships have put the pain of a breakup at par with that of losing a loved one to death. But there is a way to regain your ex. Let us look at a few things you can do.
Avoid hostilities It is extremely easy to become bitter and vindictive after a relationship breakup. This is more so if you were a victim of a infidelity. There are the never ending questions and even the nagging feeling of not being worthy. If someone has cheated on you, there is always the loss of self-esteem and an overwhelming urge to retaliate either by telling them off or going out and getting someone else. If you want to win your ex back, you must cease to have any hostile feelings towards your ex. It is understandable that you could still be hurting. If the pain is unbearable, it is perfectly okay to take some time off. You can even take a vacation away from the immediate area of the conflict. But whenever you speak with your ex, avoid sounding angry and by all means avoid conflict.
Take some time off
This is essential especially if you want to heal. Taking some time off by yourself helps you heal from the emotional wounds that have been caused by the breakup. In most relationships where a breakup takes place, there is a feeling of regret, loss and even anger. This can even be worse if you were cheated on. It is recommended that you take some off to think and rethink the relationship.
Time off also allows you to reflect on the relationship. This clears your mind and you are able to reflect objectively without any bias. You can then analyze your partner's strengths and weaknesses and be in a better position to make an informed decision.
Be wise when initiating contact
Experts are in agreement that time off is important when a relationship tanks. This is because it allows you to recapture your emotions and regain your balance. But from time to time, you may run into your ex. This can be more than you might want if the two of you had children. The concept of taking time off is harder if you had an intact family that includes children. In this case, implement the first point we mentioned-avoid appearing and sounding hostile. Try to the best of your ability to be friendly and cordial especially when you meet in public. Compliment your ex but also do not appear to have been waiting for that meeting. Act like you have a life and are busy with other things. That is why it is important to take time and rebuild your life.
