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I think every guy has a fascination with Pick up lines. I'm sure you've heard quite a few of them by now... probably even used them.
- "You must be in a wrong place - the Miss Universe contest is over there."
- "Was that an earthquake or did you just rock my world?"
- "I may not be a genie but I can make your dreams come true..."
- "Are you a magnet, because I'm so attracted to you..."
Why do guys use these tired old pick up lines?
In this article I'm going to explain the 3 reasons guys use pickup lines - and the 3 reasons why pick up lines don't work... and how you can avoid making this mistake when you want to approach a beautiful woman.
Why Guys Use Pick Up Lines - Reason #1: Pick up Lines are a quick fix.
Guys use pick up lines as a crutch to help them start a conversation with a women with a minimum amount of effort and (hopefully) a maximum return.
After all, you just want a fast and easy way to get talking to that hot blonde over in the corner, and if you can just pull out a witty little pick up line to do it for you, why not, right?
The problem here is that if you have ever used a set of real crutches, you know that it's hard to go back to walking again when you get used to them. It's the same problem when you start to get used to memorizing your conversation with a woman in advance. You'll never sound fresh or convincing.
You'll just sound like an actor.
Why Guys Use Pick Up Lines - Reason #2: Pick up Lines are expected.
There have even been scientific studies done (believe it or not) to determine why guys use pick up lines. One of the reasons they've found is that men believe that women expect men to throw some shameless flattery their way to start the conversation. They figure that the easiest path is the one that she probably wants, right?
The problem is that when you use a cheesy pick up line like this, she writes you off right away as being predictable. And there's nothing more boring than being predictable.
Why Guys Use Pick Up Lines - Reason #3: Guys don't know what else to say.
This is the real core reason why guys use pick up lines. We just don't know what else to say to women that will start a conversation and initiate some flirting. It seems like there must be some kind of secret formula for opening her up, but nobody ever told us what it was. So we fall back on one cheap technique for talking to women, hoping that we'll 'get lucky.'
And if you go into a conversation with just one pick up line and no plan for how the rest of the conversation should go, you're going to have unpredictable and inconsistent results.
So if guys use pick up lines all the time, why don't they work?
Why Pick Up Lines Don't Work - Reason #1: Women think they're cheap and common.
This is really important to understand: Women need to feel unique and special. It's one of the primary ingredients for attraction to begin. So women are looking for signs from you that you're treating her as a very special and unique woman. If she feels for a second that you're just saying these things to get her to go along with you, she'll immediately pull away.
That's why what you say to her must always feel to her as if you're saying it for the first time - and not just reciting some cheap pickup line you found online.
Why Pick Up Lines Don't Work - Reason #2: They don't "show you off."
In order to get attraction started with a woman, you have to impress her. And, as I said before, nothing says "mindless" and "common" like using a pick up line.
When you first meet a woman, you need to communicate two things right away: 1) Confidence, and 2) Authenticity. Both of those traits will show her that you're a man that stands out and can deliver when the time comes.
Both of those traits are also essential for getting a woman interested in what you have to say.
Why Pick Up Lines Don't Work - Reason #3: The opening line isn't as important as you think.
I know you're probably going to be shocked to hear that, but it's true. Your opening line isn't nearly as important as how you respond to *what she says to you.*
Why is this?
Well, any guy can just recite his stock pick up line, right? You could have practiced that in the mirror for hours and hours to get the delivery just right. Super slick.
But what she says back to you is something you can NEVER predict. And it's always a small challenge to you that you must be able to answer.
If you open with, "Hey, you're the most beautiful woman in this room," and then she says:
"How do you know that for sure?"
Yowch!
What are you going to reply to that?
Did you find yourself a bit stumped for an answer to that question? I bet you did. But smart women will know when you're using a pick up line and they will challenge you on it.
That's why it's so important that you use a pick up line or opener that you are sincere about and you can justify. As my dad used to say, don't let your mouth write checks you can't cash.
Learning how to open a conversation with a woman is much more than just delivering a canned pick up line. It's about knowing how to stay cool and confident, showing her your sincerity, and getting a woman to feel unique and special. If you can deliver on those simple ingredients, you'll have no problem starting conversations. And you'll never need another pick up line again.
