subject: You can mend a broken relationship - Here's how [print this page] You can mend a broken relationship - Here's how
I don't think there's anything more upsetting and depressing in the world than when your relationship breaks up. Your state of mind becomes so negative that all you can think of is how to win that relationship back and your mind is in complete turmoil.
So, what can you do when you can't think straight, you can't concentrate at work or sport, all you can think about is how to restore your broken relationship?
Well, first take a good long look at yourself - literally in the mirror. What you'll see if you look closely enough is one broken unhappy person staring back at you. That's your first step. What you see in the mirror is exactly the same person that your friends and family will see as will - and your ex wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend. So, try and straighten your back up for a start because for sure you'll be starring at someone with round shoulders at this moment carrying the world around. Next get rid of that frown, even though it will be hidden away, at least people will think you're getting over yourself. If you carry that frown around, it means a total lack of self confidence and you'll find your ex and your family and friends will want to run as fast as they can from this unhappy looking person. Nobody wants to be around a sad depressive person.
Next, do some physical exercise, even though it will be the last thing you'll want to do, go for a run, or, just some sit ups, you'll feel a lot better and stronger for it. Remember, while you are waiting for that phone call from your ex, you've got to do all your can to stop thinking about it, otherwise the days are just going to get longer and longer.
Then it's time to think about what went wrong. First have a good look at your personal appearance. If you look a bit scruffy, tidy yourself up - go get a new haircut and go buy yourself some new clothes. A new outfit will bring new self confidence into your life as well as when your do eventually meet up with your ex, she or he will look at you with new eyes.
Now, the most important thing of all to remember when you've had a break up and you're on the loosing end of it, is to stay away from all contact with your ex. The most tempting thing of all is to give your ex a call, or, casually walk past their place hoping that they'll invite you in, thinking that they'll be over it and want to make up again. Wrong, they may be relishing the new found freedom they have and you'll just dig yourself a deeper hole.
Given time though and if you play the game right and to many degrees it is a game and you had a strong relationship to begin with, you will probably be given another opportunity to mend this relationship.
At this point go really really easy, remember this is like going fishing. Once your ex has had a nibble at the bait if you give your rod a strong tug you've probably lost them forever. So, go really slowly. Just have a short meeting over a cup of coffee and don't even bring your old relationship up and don't be drawn into why it broke up in the first place. If it's mentioned, change the subject straight away.
So, make this meeting brief and don't ask for another one with them. At this point if they like the new you they'll call you. Good luck. We've got a site full of more tips for you.
