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Dating Advice: Heed The Red Flag Warning Signs
Dating advice is all around us these days. Your friends, family, and co-workers are eager to dish out dating advice. But let's be real - how much do they really know? Do they know anything at all about dating? Having said that, today we discuss red flag warning signs that the person you are dating might not be the one for you. Sometimes, it can be not nice when we realize our partner is not our soul mate. Let's dive in to the red flag warning signs, shall we?
1. Your date is hopelessly devoted to another.On a regular basis, he spoke to his mother more than he did to me. He talked to her every day, and then he would compare me to her. She has him on such a short leash that he hasn't ever made a major decision without her! This was a clear warning sign to me that there were plenty of other more ripe and succulent fish in the sea, mmm kkk?
2. Your spending habits don't mesh, gel or match. If she shops to make herself feel good, and he feels better when money is saved for the future, look out: irritation, frustration, and arguments can result. In other words, child: Get out now, while your credit-card balance is still manageable and you're still self-sufficient.
3. Your political views are too different.If one person is thrilled that Don't Ask, Don't Tell has been repealed, while the other ispeeved, he or she may not be the one. Although there are some famous liberal/conservative couples out there, If you have opposite ideologies, it's usually a deal-breaker. So, if you find yourself saying things like I can't believe you voted for him' or I can't even kiss someone who likes that person,' it's time to move on.
4. Your partner doesn't laugh at your jokes, instead offering the deer in the headlights look. Take it from me: If that obscure Monty Python reference provokes polite but uncomprehending giggles on a first date, it'll be met with frosty silence six months down the road. The same formula applies if she thinks Garrison Keillor is hilarious, but you're more like Homer Simpson banging on the TV set and shouting, "Be more funny!"
5. Your partner simply isn't ready.I met someone over a year ago, and we really hit it off. He would call me from work daily, saying that he missed me and couldn't wait to see me again. But the closer we got, the more he started to pull back. Finally, I threw in the towel, realizing that even though we were compatible in many ways, he was not emotionally ready for a relationship. I said, child - you gots to step to the curb. You dig where I'm coming from?
6. One person wants children, and the other says no way.Often, a person is so happy to find The One that he or she assumes love, marriage and having children go together, but for the other person, being a twosome and being in love is enough. It's a good idea to have a serious heart-to-heart talk with your potential mate to understand his or her perspective.
7. Your tastes are too different.The number-one reason for failed relationships is what I call refinement incompatibility. Some of us are content to go camping, while others can't survive outside a Ritz-Carlton hotel room. Some things are negotiable, but refinement incompatibility is not one of them, no matter how magnetically attracted you are to each other. So if your other half just isn't up to speed on your talents or isn't appreciative, can you say "Dating Site"?
8. Your lifestyles clash. If you're a corporate executive pulling in six figures a year, you've probably figured out by now whether you can tolerate a guy or gal who earns an order of magnitude less in terms of salary. No harm, no foul: ending things now is better than leading someone along (or unexpectedly sticking your date with the tab at that expensive restaurant). Money is always an issue.
9. Your first connection fizzles.Sometimes, two people can hit off like two peas in a pod, salt n pepper. Sometimes that attraction develops as you get to know a person and sometimes it doesn't, but it's very different from instantly having that sizzle of chemistry when your date glances at you for the very first time.
10. Your relationship has you on edge.I believe that The One strengthens you, lifts you up and does not produce anxiety. Love lifts us up where we belong. Where the eagles fly on the mountains high.When something isn't right, your intuition keeps trying to let you know by putting nagging doubts in your mind as well as continual anxiety. This is a gut thing, and your gut is rarely wrong.
