subject: Self Confidence Boosters - Get Back Your Confidence [print this page] Learning how to gain confidence isnt just for people who have always had a low self-esteem. Some people who have previously been confident can suffer a series of setbacks in life that drain their confidence. They feel like all their confidence has sapped away and dont know whether they can ever get it back.
I often get called in at this stage, to help the star whos not sure if they can get back on stage, the professional athlete who cant make it back onto the field. These people have been previously high performing but for one reason or another have not been able to regain their confidence.
It can be doubly frustrating when you have been a high confidence person in the past, because you know what it was like, but you just cant get there. Confidence being a state of mind, many people feel frustrated that they cant just switch it back on. Theyve felt it in the past, but it seems more and more distant for them now.
In these cases, whats needed is the best of self confidence boosters, a change of focus. No confidence rescue package is complete without a total change in what you are focussing on.
People who are lacking in confidence focus on two things. Themselves and all the things that are negative about a situation. To regain confidence, you need to switch these things around. First of all, rather than focussing on negatives, you need to build up momentum. The best way to build momentum is to get some successes under your belt.
And when I talk about successes in this context, I mean anything. The smallest successes count. Once you build up some small successes, you can move up to larger and larger tasks. It is the way almost all progress is made in life. Small steps, building up to larger and larger ones.
The second thing is to remove the focus away from yourself. Being analytical and self-evaluating is useful up to a stage, but after a certain point it becomes counter-productive. Removing the focus from yourself to others is a very powerful way of regaining confidence.
The good news is if you have had high self-esteem in the past, then it will be easier to regain it.
