subject: How to Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Ready to Throw in the Towel - Finish Those 12 Rounds! [print this page] How to Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Ready to Throw in the Towel - Finish Those 12 Rounds!
Learning how to save your marriage when your spouse could care less about doing anything can be a hard thing to try and do. A feeling of hopelessness may be overwhelming you to the point where you are absolutely desperate to save the marriage.
That harsh reality is one that many people go through. There are tons of marriages that end because one spouse has completely lost interest in saving it. They have told you and showed you how they no longer want to be married.
This is the person you planned on sharing the rest of your life with, and now they're telling you they don't want to be married anymore? This is most definitely a serious situation that requires you to take the initiative to get the proccess of saving your marriage started.
The most important things you shouldn't do before you have even started trying to fix things is beg and plead for your spouse to think things over. When you do this, you leave yourself open to submitting yourself to whatever your spouse feels you should change about yourself to fix the marriage.
This is not what you're supposed to do. You're supposed wait, and then start communicating with each other about the issues that seem to be weighing down the marriage. When you do this you both can make the necessary compromises and commitments to save the marriage.
You meet each other halfway, you don't give in to your spouses wants because they may seriously be unreasonable. Perhaps even selfish. So don't beg or cry when your spouse reveals that they no longer want to be married.
Now, if your spouse says that they need space or time to think, give it to them. By doing this, you give them time to think about how devastating what they told you is. You give them the time to realize that trying to end the marriage could quite honestly destroy the relationship you both have together.
If they can see how wrong and shattering this is, they may want to talk about the marriage instead of wanting to end it. When you show no effort at first in trying to understand what they're thinking at first, this will make your spouse question the reason why you aren't making an effort.
When they begin asking "Why aren't you....?" or "Can we talk about....?" you know you have taken the right steps to begin save your marriage. Just communicate and identify the problems, and talk to each other about what you both could do to fix those problems. Now you know how to save your marriage when your spouse wants to call it quits.
