subject: The Psychology Of Relationships [print this page] Relationship psychology is about teaching each person inside the relationship how to recognize destructive or unhelpful patterns that could potentially be driving your partner away. The unfortunate part about most couples is that they often believe the other person will think the same way as they do. Both, women and men differ in the way they communicate what the want or need.
Women need to realize that men place more worth on actions instead than words. This means a woman who constantly tries to get her partner to address problems in the relationship by talking about the issues or arguing about bad behavior is almost certain to see an increase in those negative patterns.
Instead of talking or arguing your way through an issue, try using a more psychological approach. Men respond more positively to your actions. They want to know that they are capable of making you happy. A man who is continuously faced with an upset partner will begin to think there's nothing he can do to make you happy, so he'll withdraw even further from you, even to the point of breaking up.
However, if he's faced with a happy, confident partner who is a pleasure to spend time with, he's less likely to withdraw. In fact, he'll likely draw even closer because he enjoys being around you. Men in this situation will often find themselves doing whatever they can to make sure you stay as happy as you were on those occasions. If you find it tough to raise your self-confidence, then try giving yourself a mini-make over or spend some time doing something you enjoy. When you feel good within yourself, you're more likely to radiate that confidence outwardly as well.
Men need to take into account that women value slightly different emotional triggers than they do. Women want to know that the man they love places enough value on her to honestly listen to what she's saying. If you really feel your wife or girlfriend is pulling away from you, then sit down and just listen.
Understanding these differences in the psychology of relatonships between men and women can help strengthen your current relationship or help in getting your ex lover back.
