subject: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Ending [print this page] If you are going through a difficult time when your love feels like it is coming to an end and you dread that divorce may be inevitable, you aren't alone. Many before you have gone through it and saved their marriage. There are things that you can do to help stop a divorce or correct problems before they get to that point.
First, realize that as much as you may want to save your relationship you may not be able to. Be prepared for the unknown at all times. This isn't thinking pessimistically, it is being realistic which is what you need to be.
Make use of family therapy or seek out the help of reputable marriage counselors. They have been well trained and have lots of experience helping people go through these times. Even if adultery is involved, they can still help. Many marriages have been brought back from the edge because of counseling and therapy. They are accustomed to dealing with infidelity between spouses, depression, or any other things that stress a relationship to the point of divorce. Marriage counseling doesn't have to be costly, there are plenty of good choices for you to use to get good relationship advice before resorting to a divorce lawyer.
Perhaps, the most imporant thing to learn not to do during relationship problems or discussions of divorce is to argue. Conversations or discussions that wind up as arguing sessions will only make matters worse. You can try calling it reasoning or what ever but the truth is you are trying to force them to feel differently than they do. If you genuinely want to avoid divorce then try to work towards battling the separation and not your partner.