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There are many types of Emotional Vampires. They go by different names, bullies, difficult people, toxic, unsafe, drama queens, users, and some other words not so nice.
But the focus here is not on them.
It's on you.
Sure dealing with energy suckers can be draining. Their behavior abusive, controlling, demeaning. The emotional reaction you have can be very distracting. This distraction can feel like a mind scrambled. And, indeed your energies have been tampered with unknowingly to you, you have let them. You need to be more self-aware. When they do mean or outrageous things that upset you, you tend to focus on them that is how your energy gets discharged and reversed. However, it is really the meaning that you attach on what their actions mean about you. Your attention should not be concerned about what the meaning is behind their actions. When they do or say the things they do and say and you feel a visceral reaction inside that is where your crisis-opportunity lies.
Vampires are the best seminars in town-= they teach you where your codependent energy is leaking out and making you an easy target. You have to admit to yourself that you are upset and that you cannot change them and even if you don't like it you need to change yourself. These growth and recovery lessons teach us about the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. Stories have meaning in them. You have choices. Meanings can shift. Stories that can be edited.
When your focus is on them and your emotional reaction, your energy is stuck there. It cannot move on, it cannot process. Energy is like food; if not processed it rots.
Energy needs to keep moving, like blood. When your energy spikes it is a teachable moment. Teaching you about your weaknesses, your strengths, your issues, your values, your fears, your boundaries.
I have heard that in school you learn a lesson and then you are given a test. But in life you are given a test and then you learn a lesson. I have also read that once you learn the lesson, the difficult people cease being a problem in your life.
Vampires suck. Energy
But you allow it. You invite them in. You offer your neck. Until you want something different you won't be open to learning a different and difficult lesson. You teach others how to treat you by what you allow. Are you accommodating? Are you here for their amusement? Are you an approval seeker? Do you want to change?
Then get used to being uncomfortable. Be ok with feeling uncomfortable. Get familiar with uncomfortable. Get comfortable with uncomfortable.
Get used to saying no.
Get used to saying no and then saying "no more".
Get used to uncomfortable silences.
Get used to not caring what others think about you.
Get used to being seen as the bad guy, the one who won't give in or give up and won't play the game anymore. The one who won't let the other one win so they aren't uncomfortable.
Face your challenges and feel how uncomfortable they are.
Face your fears and feel how scary they are.
Feel your hurts and feel how enraged you are.
But do nothing. Say nothing. Just breathe.
Just be. Just be here. Just be here now.
Step out of your comfort zone. It's hard to step out of something unless you know where standing.
Then you can learn a new step.
Learn the two-step. The side step. Learn to block. Learn to bounce back.
Learn to be uncomfortable and where do you feel it in your body?
Describe it. Send love to it.
Really tune into it feel it as a body sensation, especially its location, weight, density, color, etc.
When you are tuned into it, feeling very uncomfortable, but still just feeling it without analyzing it or thinking, almost as if you can feel it in your hand if you could reach in and grab it that's when your full attention is on it and you can simply Imagine moving it 3 inches down from where ever it is.
Energy follows intention.
Learn to move what you feel in your body.
Learn to send love to places in your body that feel uncomfortable.
Breathe into it. Relax.
Stop holding your breath.
Exhale.
Take a deep breath and let it out. Let it go.
Breathe in new fresh air and choices.
Stand in your center, keep your knees slightly bent so you cannot get pushed over so easily. Relax your shoulders but raise your chin. Look certain. Look forward.
Move forward. From where ever you are, you can take a baby step forward.
Stand there and take over that spot. Tune into something good you know you are. Imagine it is 100 times greater than you think it is.
Imagine something more that you want that you think you lack. Imagine it as a coat and put it on. Try it on for size. Get used to it. Keep putting it on.
Imagine something uncomfortable that you hate and peel it off of you. Take it off like shedding an old skin. Peel it off and throw it on the floor and let it pile up in front of you. Continue peeling until it is all off. Put your new coat on. Send love to the pile on the floor. Move it 3 inches forward. If you can move it 3 inches forward you can move it a million light years out into the vast universe beyond never to be seen again.
Sweep the floor. Clear a nice spot. Make a circle. Start throwing in everything that you want for yourself and your life and then step into it. Own it. That's your power circle. You can create one where ever you like. You can put a chair in it and make that your power chair. Sit down. Power up.
You can play with your own energy in many ways and feel a distinct difference as a result. You will know the difference when old triggers don't trigger you anymore. What is that worth to you? Make a list of all your triggers and what they mean to you. Along side of that list, list the ways you react to those triggers because of the meaning you have assigned to that behavior or judgment, abandonment, hurt, or whatever it was that triggered you.The trick is to become more aware of when your brain throws the switch to go into auto-pilot mode and thinks it should turn on the react button. When you are aware of the trigger you are a t a choice-point., it's not easy at first maybe that is why we were taught to "count to 10" before speaking when we're angry. But once you make the concentrated effort to take a look at what is triggering you and to not let your mind automatically switch into react-mode that is the moment you have reclaimed your power to make a better decision. As for the uncomfortable feeling, you learn to move it. Once it is moved out your left and right brain can communicate better and process the situation and make a more empowering, healthier choice for yourself and take your power back from the energy suckers.
To move your energy is as easy as imagining it moving. It works best with heat, like a laser or fire from your heart or the warmth of your hands. Energy usually isn't cold, for example rubbing your hands together creates a warmth, a heat.
So imagine sending that heat into the sensation of energy that feels triggered or uncomfortable. Send it where ever you feel it anywhere in your overall system (your body, your mind, your spirit, your aura, your meridian pathways, your space, your energy system)and get that heat to make that energy move. Try it. If it doesn't move then just keep sending energy into it. Use your attention and your intention and warm it until it melts and starts to drip, ooze, flow or evaporate. It can be different for everyone or for every time you try it.
Take for example that uncomfortable feeling. Imagine you are in the most uncomfortable situation you can imagine. What do you feel? Where do you feel it? Send energy there and warm it up until it can move. Now mix and match these energy tools and play around with them until you get it right for you.
Once it is heated up and soft and light it can move anywhere it wants it. Just allow it to move. Move it anywhere in or out of your system. Your energy has a mind of its own and knows where it wants to go. Allow it to go there.
