subject: Getting Your Ex Back and Keeping Them For Good! [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back and Keeping Them For Good!
A failed relationship is something which does not rate highly on everyone's "to do" list. Failed relationships outright suck while not being a fun time for anyone to endure. Once the shock is worn off and you are faced with the future of being alone, this is the time you need to analyze yourself in finding out what you did wrong within the relationship. If you want your ex back, it's very important to ask yourself what you could have done wrong and how you can improve yourself not only for your ex coming back to you but future relationships.
Was I caring enough?
Most of us ask this question when not only suffering failed relationships but while in relationships. We all know there are times when we are inconsiderate and sometimes casting aside the feelings of our mates. We take them for granted while assuming no matter what we do our mates will always be there for us. Harsh reality is that sometimes people flat-out are fed up with inconsiderate mates. Is it so much to ask if you pick up after us once in awhile? Is it so much to ask if you take your mate out for dinner or eve4n cook a nice dinner at home? If kids are involved, what is wrong with you watching the kids while your significant other takes a nice long bubble bath? I will tell you what is wrong with this scenario, absolutely nothing.
We are all human however, it is mandatory that we not only think of ourselves but our mates. It is obvious you do not want to watch a hockey game with your mate but if you know, it means a lot to your mate, then buck up and watch the hockey game with him here and there. If you do not like those sappy movies, which make even the strong-hearted cry, instead of looking for a noose to hang yourself, just simply sit and watch it with your mate. These things do matter and if you do not realize such things, you will never get your ex back.
Was I a dictator in the relationship or was I too submissive?
For those of us who live within a free country, we do not take to being consistently told what we can or cannot do. This should be very much present within your relationship. Each person in the relationship should be accepted, as a mature adult with opinions, to ignore this fact by one person within the relationship will be the trigger to why they are all of a sudden alone.
Were you a "yes" person? People generally do not like weak people. When someone does not voice their opinion or readily accepts the opinions of others, it is construed as weakness and this is not good for any relationship. At least for those who admire independence as well as someone who speaks their mind. If you were a "yes" person within the relationship, you must show your ex that you do actually contain "personality". This can apply to males or females. It is ok to take charge sometimes while speaking your mind. What is not ok is the fact of never showing your mate your true voice.
You must find out the answers to these two questions before you can embark on getting your ex back. To ignore these two questions, which you must ask yourself inwardly, is only setting yourself up for failure. Let us face the fact that if you were perfect within the relationship, you more than likely would not be alone.
