subject: Your Relationship's End Isn't The End Of The World [print this page] In the 2004 movie Shaun of the Dead, Shaun's best friend Ed tells him that his relationship ending is not the end of the world. Granted, in the case of that movie it was not exactly true, but in real life it is most certainly the case. If you are someone who has just gotten out of a relationship, and you were the one who got dumped as opposed to being the one who did the dumping, it can be very difficult to move on, but as Ed put it, it is not the end of the world. Here are some steps you can take to be on the road to recovery.
The first thing you need to do is tell yourself that your relationship ending was not your fault (unless of course you cheated on your partner, or did something else just as bad, but that is a different article altogether). Often times relationships simply run their course. It does not mean that there is anything wrong with you, even if your ex tells you there is. It is simply a matter of your partner and you got out of touch somewhere along the line and they no longer wished to work at it. Nobody is directly responsible for the break up, so you do not need to worry about that part of things, and you certainly do not need to over analyze the situation to see what you think might have been wrong with you.
The next thing you need to do is to quickly move on from your ex. This is perhaps the hardest part. Abandon any notions that your ex will want to get back together with you, because this will only help build false hope, and that is the last thing you need. Instead, focus on your life without that person. Basically, if your ex shows up and wants to try things again, and it is still what you want, then great. But do not expect that to happen, and assume that they are out of your life for good. It is important to build self reliance in this case, because this will allow you to be able to be happy on your own.
The next thing for you to be done, when you feel that you are ready, is to just get back out there. If you feel that you are generally happier when you are with somebody, then there is nothing wrong with that. What matters is whether or not you are able to be happy in general while you are on your own.
