subject: How To Politely Turn Down A Date? [print this page] How To Politely Turn Down A Date? How To Politely Turn Down A Date?
No one appreciates being made a fool out of or even feeling slighted. There might be numerous incidents when you are asked out for a date by a girl/guy who you might not be interested in. It is very essential to turn them down politely and courteously so that you do not end up hurting their feelings.
It takes a lot of guts to come out and ask someone for a date as there is a danger of rejection. This is exactly what you are going to do so be very careful of knowing exactly how to avert an ugly situation.
These are some ways in which you can turn down a date you are not interested in-
Start off with thanking the person for their interest in you. The best way to turn down a date is to politely say that you have plans for the day mentioned. If you do this 2-3 times the other person will get a hint and will stop asking you.
Whenever asked out for a date and cornered into a situation where it would be awkward to refuse, simply collect a gang of friends and make it a group outing. Avoid any one-to-one interaction with the girl/guy and she/he will know you are not interested.
Politely tell her/him that this is just a very bad time for you as you just got out of a very volatile relationship and need time to heal. Make it sound like its your fault and tell them that you are not up to it.
In case you are interested in someone else, graciously tell that to the person asking you out. Tell them you would have loved to spend time with them but you are already seeing someone and it is something of an exclusive arrangement.
If you wish to go the honest way then just tell the Girl/Guy that while they are a very nice person, you just are not into them. Tell them that you feel there is no chemistry or they are just not the same type. Keep your voice neutral and do not let go of eye contact. Explain as gently as explaining a child.
Incase you have a mutual friend who you are sure will not make things worse then ask her/him to help you out and give the girl/guy a clue that you are actually not interested.
Reassure the girl/guy that this will not make any difference to your existing relationship because chances are that they will be very embarrassed and tensed about the episode. Tell them that you appreciate the gesture.
Remember to empathize with the person asking you out and turn them down as gently as possible. Think how you would feel if you were in their place.
In the unfortunate situation where the Girl/Guy refuses to heed to any hints you might have to be a little stern and repeat that a date would not be a good idea. Remember never to lose your cool or become rude.
