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Providing infidelity advice is never easy. In sensitive matters of the heart it's important to give sound, unbiased advice. When it comes to giving advice on infidelity I find it works best when the information that is shared is practical and easily understood, because that's what's needed when it's a daily struggle to just make sense of it all.
With that being the case, I'd like to offer you some infidelity advice that's more about what else you might want to worry about, regarding the affair. Some of these are a little direct so if you are offended, I apologize. My intention is to help you with straight forward advice and not to scare you or offend you.
What Else To Be Concerned About Regarding The Affair
1. Was the affair legal. I know it's an off the wall question, but in this day and age we live in, Teens look like young adults these days and they act as though they are 21. They hang out in bars and clubs and unfortunately have affairs with older people. There are potential legal consequences if an under aged person was involved in the affair.
2. For a man who cheated, have any children been conceived as a result of the infidelity. It's one thing to admit to the affair but it's harder to also own up to getting someone pregnant.
3. Sexually transmitted diseases. Sorry, to throw this one in but it's just something you need to think about and probably getting a physical is the only thing that will help you feel comfortable.
4. What's the financial loss, if any? Affairs don't always come with no strings attached. My advice is that you probe into the finances and press your cheating partner to make sure there haven't been any financial commitments that need to be honored, i.e., car payments, rental agreements etc.
5. Is the affair really over. It's not always a clean break when a long-term affair has been going on and there is an emotional attachment. Most infidelity advice you read will tell you that you can't recover from infidelity until your spouse ends the affair. I believe you also can't succeed until the emotional bond is broken.
Like I mentioned above, infidelity advice is difficult because no matter how you word it or sugar coat it, it is ugly. The pain is unbearable at times. The anger and rage is uncontrollable and it's hard to not just sit and cry, trying to find out how some one who claims to love you could do this to you.
