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What does the bible say about sex?
Before we begin talking about what couples are and are not allowed to do in the bedroom, I think we have to decide where we stand on what is not said in the bible. I think there are basically two schools of thought.
1). God gave us liberty and we can do anything we want unless he tells us not to
2).Our liberty is limited and we can only do what God says we should
I fall squarely in the first group, I believe that unless God deals with a subject specifically, then we are fine to make our own choices. The entirety of the New Testament is all about our freedom, and it is true that we should not use our freedom to sin, the bible tells it was the law that showed us sin and the law never deals with sex between a married couple. Even if you look in Acts when the apostles list the things which the gentiles need to avoid here it is
Act 21:25 As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written and concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication.
Keep yourselves from things offered to idols, from blood, from things strangled and from fornication. Fornication deals with sex, and here is the definition of that word from strongs
G4202
porneia
por-ni'-ah
From G4203; harlotry (including adultery and incest); figuratively idolatry: - fornication.
Adultery and incest, it doesn't have anything to do with sex between a married couple, I'm going to list scriptures in the bible dealing with sex , you are going to see that God never gives guidelines about what type of sex to have, only who you can have sex with and it becomes real simple. You can only have sex with your spouse and according to
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all and the bed is undefiled,
so whatever is done in the marriage bed is ok, but don't take my word for it read the scriptures for yourself.
Let's approach this with a clear mind and start off realizing that in the garden there was no sin, God created us sexually free and the only limitations are what God's word actually says .
Exo 22:16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.
Deu 22:28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
Deu 22:29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days
This scripture tells us that if you have pre-marital sex you are to marry the woman, this is what we call fornication and the new testament talks about it a lot. The problem in the verse is sex between single people and the solution is marriage, so obviously we should be walking in the solution and not having sex unless we are married, this is made more clear in later verses as well. The next verse we find dealing with sex is...
Exo 22:19 Whosoever lieth with a beast shall surely be put to death.
Lev 18:23 Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion.
Lev 20:15 And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast.
Lev 20:16 And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
So very clearly beastiality is wrong, but so far we have no restrictions on the sexual activity between a husband and wife.
Exo 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.
Lev 18:20 Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour's wife, to defile thyself with her.
Lev 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
Deu 5:18 Neither shalt thou commit adultery.
Pro 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Mat 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Gal 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Ok no sex with your neighbors spouse, so that rules out adultery, but still no limits on the sexual relations between spouses.
Lev 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Lev 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
Homosexuality is out, men do not lie with other men, the same goes for women, still nothing about a husband and wife
Lev 20:11 And the man that lieth with his father's wife hath uncovered his father's nakedness: both of them shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
Lev 20:12 And if a man lie with his daughter in law, both of them shall surely be put to death: they have wrought confusion; their blood shall be upon them.
Lev 20:19 And thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister, nor of thy father's sister: for he uncovereth his near kin: they shall bear their iniquity.
Lev 20:20 And if a man shall lie with his uncle's wife, he hath uncovered his uncle's nakedness: they shall bear their sin; they shall die childless.
Lev 20:21 And if a man shall take his brother's wife, it is an unclean thing: he hath uncovered his brother's nakedness; they shall be childless.
No wife swapping in the family, and really because of the adultery scriptures above, no wife swapping in general
Lev 20:17 And if a man shall take his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter, and see her nakedness, and she see his nakedness; it is a wicked thing; and they shall be cut off in the sight of their people: he hath uncovered his sister's nakedness; he shall bear his iniquity.
This scripture rules out any incest, but still no guidelines for properly married people
Deu 22:23 If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her;
Deu 22:24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.
Deu 22:25 But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die:
Deu 22:26 But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death
No rape and no sex with anyone else once you are engaged, realistically there should be no sex until you are married, but God takes sex with other people once you are engaged very seriously.
Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mar 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
Mar 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Luk 16:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Rom 13:9 For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
No divorce except under the conditions of adultery
So after examining what the scriptures have to say about the topic I can conclude that whatever a husband and wife want to do together as long as it only involves them is perfectly fine with God. I hope this article helps you get excited about sex as a couple, we will have more articles available for viewing at http://www.thechristiansexstore.com in our forums, giving keys for the men to have great sex with their wives and another article giving keys for the wife to have great sex with her husband. These tips and principles have been applied in my own marriage and also the marriages of several friends always with great results. Most of the keys are just going to be changing the way we think about sex and for the guys, changing our priorities in sex. Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both partners and hopefully the articles on this site will help you and your spouse have a better sex life and a stronger marriage because of it.
