subject: After The Affair Tips For Raising Your Sinking Marriage [print this page] After The Affair Tips For Raising Your Sinking Marriage
Learning to rebuild and maintain a marriage after the affair can resemble trying to save a boat that is already half sunk. It can be done, but it is a seemingly hellish task.
It is a well known fact that time can fix almost anything though, and re-floating a half sunken HMAS 'Your marriage' takes up a good deal of the precious commodity we know as TIME.
In time the victim of such affairs will eventually overcome the rage, the jealousy will dissipate, and eventually the hurt ceases to be a pain.
The truth of the matter is that no one can or will ever forget the affair but, with time it can be forgiven. After all it is human nature to forgive the fallen.
This rebuilding of your marriage will require you to change the way you think about your marriage and your future with your spouse.
An after the affair marriage is very uncomfortable and difficult to maintain. But that is to be expected. Try the following steps and they will help you.
"Think about and focus on the future."
In order to put the past behind you, it is important to adjust your focus - It doesn't do any good to wallow in the past! Try to focus on the future!
So, at times when you feel that something is bothering you about your marriage, remember the past but don't waste too much time thinking about it. Try to be positive and think about the good and happy things that you can do with your marriage instead.
Fixing A Marriage Is Like Rebuilding A Ship!
The task of fixing a marriage is like fixing a leak in a sinking ship. You can plug it, paint over it, and patch it, but will the repairs remain strong? Chances are they will. But they will still take on water from time to time.
