subject: Game-Killers: The 5 Most Common Roadblocks on the Path to Success [print this page] Game-Killers: The 5 Most Common Roadblocks on the Path to Success
There are many guys with a solid inner game foundation and a good amount of in-field experience that still have trouble with getting everything to click with their game and reach the next level. This is where my game was stuck for a very long time and it was a very frustrating time for me. I had the basics down and had a good mindset, but I was still having trouble with consistently getting results and multiple dates. This may be the case with you also, and if it is, this is the article for you!
After much experience and analysis of patterns in my interactions with women, I began to notice a series of roadblocks that were the main obstacles on my path to solid results. The same things went wrong many times and it was no coincidence. Many of these roadblocks will be the same ones that are giving you problems, and you may not even be aware that you are doing anything wrong. These five roadblocks are very common, and when you bring attention to them and make an effort to work on each one, your success rate will increase greatly.
1. Rushing
This is the most common roadblock for guys that are just beginning to get the hang of things with women. With all of your new-found knowledge and skills, it is very easy to get carried away and want everything immediately. I used to meet a girl and want to instantly rush things into sex and a relationship. Things just don't work that way! Yes, there are one-night stands, but even these have a process that you must go through. No matter how good you think you may be, you still have to play the game. It is a huge attraction killer for women when they have a guy that tries to push things along too fast, especially when it comes to dating and wanting to see them too much, too soon. This is a needy mindset, and you must learn to fight this urge to try to have a girl in your pocket by the first thirty minutes or two dates. It also projects insecurity, as if you are trying to get the girl locked down before a higher value guy comes along and takes her from you. Relax! There is no shot clock, and no one to compete against besides yourself. Play your game the right way and things will work out better every time.
2. Changing After Success
Another common mistake by guys is to change things when they experience success! I've done this far too many times, and it's the worst thing that you can do. When you get her number or that first date, don't begin to doubt yourself. Don't try to do extra things to attract her more and don't change what has been working for you. I don't care how attractive she may be, you are obviously doing something right to even get that far. Don't get paranoid and be afraid to make a mistake. For guys who are just beginning to date extremely attractive women, it will be a strange transition. You must realize that you are a changed person, and not the same old you that did not have success. It's one thing to master the game, it's another to recognize this and have belief in your skills. If it's not broke, don't break it!
3. Over-Gaming
This is a problem that not many men are aware of. You can't learn how to drive a car perfectly from just reading the drivers manual and you can't learn to interact with women perfectly by having just tons of knowledge and techniques. One of the biggest things that guys do wrong is that they fail to calibrate their game to different situations. You don't have to be a cocky machine every second that you are around an attractive girl and you don't have to have a witty response for everything. It's okay to just have normal conversations sometimes! Too many guys get carried away with being cocky and funny that they become social robots. The key to attracting and seducing women is balance. When you combine your cocky and funny responses and techniques with being a normal, fun guy, you will have achieved the perfect balance.
4. Being Too Conservative
Never be afraid to take calculated risks when escalating things with women. Women are attracted to and sleep with guys that are in control! Initiate your kino early and let her know that you mean business. This doesn't mean that you have to be a total horndog bent on sex within the first hour, but it does mean that you should not suppress your desires as a man. Women are much more sexual beings than most men realize and they want us to make a move just as much as we want to make it. The only way to find out is to go for it. It's better to make a mistake being too aggressive than to make one by being too friendly. The first is correctable, the second is not.
5. Believing Women
Never take what a woman says at face value! I'm not saying that women intentionally lie all of the time, but you must learn that a woman's desires and actions are never consistent with what they say. Women act based on their emotions, not their logic. Therefore, even if a woman believes something to be true, that's not always the case. For example, girls will say all the time that they aren't attracted to short guys and end up dating a midget. It's because that midget had confidence and didn't care what she said, because it has no effect on his game. Never let anything a woman says (besides obvious rejection) deter your game or confidence. Keep on with your game, and you will surprise yourself when you find out how little women know about their own desires!
-GoinPhoenix-
This article was first posted on the Seduction University Forums
