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Email an agony aunt - Having worked as an agony aunt for many years I do know the difference between a good one and a bad one. Whenever I needed to hire staff to work for me I would be flooded with people asking for a job as an agony aunt. The all seemed to believe they could do the job but few could. 95% were useless at it. It takes more than listening and speaking. It takes a good understanding of people, a good memory, the ability to think very logically and an eye to the future.
I worked with newspapers, magazines and famous people because I was good at it. Those things do not happen by chance. The bad ones fall by the way side. Unfortunately, there are now a lot of bad ones springing up on the internet and setting up their own sites even though they are not good enough to get a proper job as one! It worries me that there are so many bad sites out there that say you can email an agony aunt, usually run by total amateurs who are just hoping to make a few quick dollars, but who do not know what they are doing. Not as an agony aunt anyway. I get a lot of emails about it from people wanting advice on how they consulted someone and then it went wrong. I decided to look through all of the sites and recommend the best one.
I went through the many sites available to find one that I could be happy to recommend to people now that I am retired.The one I found which is worth going to is email an agony aunt.
She is properly qualified, recommended by experts, the press and celebrities - she has been doing it for about thirty years, and she is very caring. She gives a lot of advice for free and she does not pass on all of her work to juniors or charge very high prices. If I ever needed an agony aunt this is the site I would use. And it is good to know you can phone her or email an agony aunt so that wherever you are in the world you can be in contact with HER.
When you wish to consult an agony aunt you now have two options. In the old days it was to go and see the person and sit in a room with them talking to them face to face. This had a lot of problems and complications. For one thing thing it is not safe for a person, especially a female, to allow a stranger into their office or house. The stranger who says they are coming for advice could be violent or whatever or a thief. For another thing they may say they are coming and the person selling advice stays in specially and then the client does not turn up and they were stuck in their house or office for an hour or more for nothing. There are a whole host of other reasons why there could be problems or complications both for the agony aunt or the client. To email an agony aunt is far better.
It is quicker, it saves the client time on travelling there and back, costs of travelling there and back. It means that the client can read and write their emails very late or very early when the agony aunt is asleep or too busy or not interested in working. It is much safer for the agony aunt. It means that the agony aunt can choose when to reply and is not hanging around and staying in especially.
One reason it is better to email an agony aunt is because when you get an email you can keep it and read it over and over again. You can take it literally. You can get a lot of comfort from it for a long time. When you see someone face to face you can remember things wrong, you can forget things, you can find that you are thinking about their new wallpaper or whether to have tea or coffee instead of listening to what they say. You might be worried about it being cold and how you think the heating should be turned up, or noise that is going on outside, or whether or not you will get wet when you leave to go home. There are too many distractions.
Another reason it is better to email an agony aunt is that you get good days and bad days. You may make an appointment to see someone and then the car breaks down on the way! Or your partner is very ill and needs comfort and nursing. Or you have a terrible cold and cannot think straight and would rather stay in bed. When you choose to go and see someone all of these things and similar things can spoil the visit. If you have a worry on your mind while you are sitting there talking to the agony aunt you can be feeling too ill or too tense to think straight or remember things. One of the great things about an email is that you can choose when you read it. Not just a time that is convenient but a time when you are in the right mood.
Another reason it is better to email an agony aunt is that even if you think you have a great memory you can easily remember things wrong. They now know that eye witnesses that are at the scene or a robbery or murder get it all wrong when questionned by the police after. If they ask ten people who were at the scene of the crime what the assailant looked like they get ten completely different descriptions. If they do a line up they invariably pick out someone and say they know for a fact he is the guilty person when it could not possibly have been him and he has a rock solid alibi. If you are feeling negative when you go to see someone you might put negative energy into your memories of what they said. They may say that everything will be alright but you might be feeling low and negative and read more into it and put a negative slant onto it. When you email an agony aunt and then read their replies you can get things in proportion.
