subject: 3 Resolutions Every Divorcing Mom MUST Make [print this page] Even if youve already made your resolutions, every divorcing mom deserves to add these resolutions to your list.
#1 TO TREAT MYSELF WITH COMPASSION
We Resilient Moms are loving nurtures of our families and our friends. We will willingly sacrifice sleep, time, money to assist those we love. Thats great and part of what makes us who we are.
But, heres a question: Are we as compassionate with ourselves as we are with others? Too often, the answer is no. We speak harshly to ourselves and focus on what we havent done, rather than congratulating ourselves on the progress we have made. We neglect ourselves and rarely enjoy our own gifts with ourselves. Treating ourselves with compassion is not an indulgence. It is a necessity. Its worth repeating: Your kids need you now more than ever. But, if you dont take care of yourself, you cant be there for them. Extend compassion in your own direction and everyone wins.
#2 TO TAKE MY HEALTH AS SERIOUSLY AS THAT OF MY KIDS
Where our kids are concerned, we pay close attention sniffles, coughs, and every ache they mention. We never skip their medical or dental appointments. So when was the last time you went to the doctor? Have you had a check-up? What about a cholesterol screening? When was the last time you visited your ob-gyn? Your good health is one of your greatest assets, so take it seriously.
#3 TO LEARN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN URGENT AND IMPORTANT AND ACT ACCORDINGLY
The key to negotiating major life change is knowing the difference between whats urgent and whats important.
Urgent matters may be time-sensitive but may lack lasting significance. Other people may have strong feelings about a situation, which may give it an emotional charge that makes it seem pressing.
Knowing whats important keeps you on purpose in your life. Handle important matters during the most productive part of your day. Check Facebook, email or return personal phone calls, address after youve addressed whats important.
