subject: Get Your Girl Back - Is Talking Things Through The Key To Getting Her Back? [print this page] Are you stressed out because your girl has dumped you? Have you tried just about everything to get her back but it seems like nothing is changing her mind about your breakup? Have you thought that if you could just get her to see that things could be different if she just came back to you this time that everything would be fine? You are willing to do anything that she says and you agree with her on everything but she just isnt having it. Maybe she has broken off communication with you or when you do talk to her if feels like your words are falling on deaf ears.
My heart goes out to you, buddy. Honestly and sincerely, I know what youre going through. You are sincere and you just wish that she knew how serious you are and how much you love her. But she wont listen to you or wont even talk to you. You have heard that the only way to resolve these conflicts in your relationship is to talk things through. Where is that guy that came up with that garbage and what does he have to say about what you should do when your ex wont talk to you or wont listen to what you have to say?
The truth is that nobody likes to talk about problems and right about now your ex doesnt want to hear that youre sorry or that youll change. As a matter of fact, every time you brought up the subject of getting back together again you pushed her further away from you and make it just a little bit more difficult to get her back in the long run. Her solution to your relationship problems was to dump you. In her mind the problem is solved. And until you can move her emotionally and make her want to get back together with you all your words and actions are just a feeble attempt to get her back.
Even if you are able to get her to sit down and talk about the problems in your relationship with the goal of correcting the problems you are still focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship. Talking on and on about the problems will only solidify in her mind that there were reasons why she broke up with you. Instead your goal should be to get her back and show her by not doing the things that ticked her off (if you think theyre valid) and instead beginning to do the things that will make her happy that she felt were missing in your relationship without coming off like too much of a weenie.
So what do you do? Well, I gave you a hint there. You need to move her emotionally, You do know that women are emotional by nature and they make decisions based upon what their heart feels. Their heart overrules their mind every time. This is why they will go for a bad boy that can make them feel something emotionally over a nice guy that is predictable even if the good guy is a perfect match for them. They will go against every logical thought that they have as far as your relationship and get back together with you even if they told all their family and friends that they hated you and would never take you back ever again. She will take you back when she is pushed beyond what she can handle emotionally and feels that love that she once felt for you again.
But how do you move her emotionally? Are we talking flowers and love letters here? Absolutely not! Being overly nice and buying her things only makes you appear weak and needy. She doesnt want you to buy her love and this definitely isnt the way to any womans heart especially your exs. She needs to respect you above all else throughout this process.
Once you are able to move her emotionally and open the lines of communication you will be able to open the doors to getting back together. Actions speak louder than words and it is absolutely possible to move her emotionally even if there is little or no contact between you and your ex if you know what to do.
