subject: Textual Relationships - A No-No For Dating! [print this page] Textual Relationships - A No-No For Dating!
Texting has changed the way we communicate in relationships. It was made out of convenience but people have turned it into a way to solely communicate. What is even worse is that men with bad intentions or who really may not be serious about a woman have over used texting as a main form of communicating so to control and limit the amount of personal interaction with that woman. I can remember when I was a single woman having some pet peeves about the way some men approached dating. My number one pet peeve was a man who was hell bent on using texting as a main form of communication.
There was a time in history when boys were forced to be men and over come their fear of rejection by approaching a woman and asking her for a dance or a date. There was a time when men had to pick up the phone and maintain a conversation with a woman as an expression that he really cared about her or was interested in getting to know her better. The lack of certain advanced technology breed better quality men and separated the boys from the men, or the serious good guy from the player.
As technology improves it appears that it has deteriorated the dating process and weakened the connection between man and woman. The purpose of the courting phase is to allow a man who is serious about a woman to demonstrate his intentions and potential love for her through his actions. While dating, it is a man's behavior that increases trust and security with in a woman for that man and when a woman is able to see that a man is willing to pick up the phone and take the time out to hear her voice and see how her day went, this adds extra trust credit in the woman's heart for that man. The more a woman is able to trust a man, the more she is able to let go and genuinely love and care for him.
Unfortunately, many women settle for a man's unwillingness to show her that he is serious about her and fall prey to getting played. Women can avoid the heart break so many of us experience if they remember that there are some things that will remain consistent through out the end of time and that one of those things are that if a man really cares for you, he will naturally desire to do what makes you happy. A man can only confirm that his beloved is happy and that he was successful at his goal of making her happy by checking up on her by means of a daily phone call. A sweet text here and there peppered through out the day is fine but he receives joy in hearing her voice or seeing her face.
According to Shay Williams-Garrett aka Shay Your Date Diva who is a speaker and author of "DIVA Don't Get Played!" and "Mommy DIVA Don't Get Played!" , if a man refuses to pick up the phone and call you, chances are that he is just not "feeling" you enough. The "hey baby" text followed by "you are the most beautiful woman in the world" absent of a follow up call by the end of the day is evidence that he A) is not serious about a relationship with you, B) may be committed to someone else, or C) is a player using the convenient method of texting to carry out his pimp game.
Daily phone calls may not be realistic in the beginning of a relationship but I would suggest that you end textual relationships before they began by being clear of what you are willing to tolerate from the beginning. If a man is over using text to communicate his feelings for you, simply share with him that you would prefer a phone call to a text message. If he continues the behavior, cut him loose and keep it moving because he is wasting your time and unwilling to do what it takes to demonstrate to you why he deserves your heart.
