subject: Relationship Tips for Men: What to Do When Your Woman Wants to Fight and Argue All of the Time [print this page] Relationship Tips for Men: What to Do When Your Woman Wants to Fight and Argue All of the Time
By Otto Collins
It seems to Andy that every conversation with his girlfriend is a battle. In fact, their 6 years together has sometimes felt like an ongoing war!
Even though there have been plenty of sweet and loving moments too, Andy is tired of arguing with his girlfriend about every little thing-- and the big things too.
From Andy's perspective, his girlfriend seems to have a knack for turning any communication into a fight.
Does it seem to you that your woman turns every talk you have-- whether it's about mundane topics or more serious ones-- into a fight? Maybe it even appears that she wants to argue.
If you stop and think about it, very few people actually like to argue or fight... especially with the ones they love.
So what can you do when communication between you and your partner is filled with tension, hostility and defensiveness?
For starters, here are a few things you probably DON'T want to do if you want to turn this disconnecting relationship habit around...
DON'T make the the fact that you two frequently argue completely her fault.
DON'T shut down communication and withdraw into yourself in an effort to avoid fights.
DON'T tune out during your talks and start agreeing with everything she says to try to keep the peace.
Instead...
Really listen to what your woman has to say. Feel free to ask her to re-phrase what she's saying so that you can better understand what she really means. Ask her questions from a place of curiosity.
Be honest about how you feel. You can choose words that will allow you to speak authentically AND encourage her to stay open and not become hostile or defensive.
Practice staying in your center by breathing deeply and slowly. Calm down when you feel the urge to rise to the level of irritation or anger that she seems to be displaying.
Be willing to take short breaks during your talk so that you two can communicate compassionately and really hear what the other has to say.
