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Ways to reduce the brother-sister rivalry
From the moment we accept that jealousy or rivalry between brother and sister is natural, we can ensure that it is attenuated, or at least avoid the continuation or rises of the situation (sometimes unintentionally)
1. Avoid mingling in every quarrels of your children. To avoid becoming a perpetual referee for them, a situation which your children will compete for to obtain favors.
2. Avoid comparisons that feeds jealousy. It is important to talk to our children without comparing them to their brother or sister. "At your age, your sister always dressed by herself all the time" Do as your brother, he always puts things in order inside his room ...." Tell her just to range her things, that's all. Make them feel they are unique and each has its qualities and abilities of their own. We must cultivate the differences between our children and this is certainly not by comparing them to each other that we will succeed.
3. Avoid labels. It is not necessarily desirable to put too much emphasis on certain characteristics of our children who "get confined" in those roles. "Jack is the family lunatic," Nadia has always been shy. "With those kind of judgments, they get camped in those roles for which they may have difficulties to depart from later in life.
4. Encourage their differences, their personalities, their respective tastes, in short, their individuality. Do not subscribe them to the same activities, do not always buy them the same kind of clothes, and games.
5. Avoid making judgments on some aspects of their personality "Oh him .... he is so impatient compared to his sister," It is pointless to constantly criticize or point out our child has weaknesses. Try rather to highlight his qualities and positive behavior that he takes to correct himself. We should treat our children not according to what they are, but based on what we want them to become.
