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If you have recently experienced a breakup stop and think for a while and analyze why the breakup took place. Could this be the wakeup call that has been waiting to happen to rouse you to delve into yourself? One of the more significant factors to save the relationship is to get to know yourself first. Do you have charactesr traits that, to you, would give the feeling of being normal and pleasant, but were viewed by your partner to be sources of annoyance? Perhaps this is the time to do some self probing to find out if there are things that you should change in yourself.
Is it possible there have been warning symptoms at the start that the relationship needed some fixing? Could your relationship with your partner have been crumbling bit by bit over time and you did not notice the signs? And you neglected these warning symptoms signs making the issue too big for mending up, therefore causing the breakup? Whatsoever the cause of the breakup, you should make the effort to examine yourself carefully first before you attempt to get back the love and save the relationship.
If you had relationships before this one, try to consider if the same problems also ended these past relationships. You may just be replicating the same negative patterns that caused past relationships to break down. And this may not be restricted to love relationships, but also to acquaintances at work, with family or friends. It is significant that you examine closely what made past relationships break down before you can get the love back and save the relationship that just broke down.
Now that you and your partner have broken up, this is the time to contemplate on the past. Try to establish patterns in your behavior that constantly recurs causing potential problems in the relationship. This is an interesting stage where you start to analyze your inner self and scrutinize your emotional personality.
It is only when you start this adventure into yourself that you will be able to find ways to get back the love you lost and save the relationship.
And when you have gottenn to know yourself, you take command of your life. You will be able to analyze the emotions within you that cause detriment to your relationships not to mention anger, jealousy and other negative emotions. Once you have analyzed your negative traits, you are then able to dispose of these and hone in on the positive. And as you blot out these negative emotions,
recognize where these are coming from. Are these from past experiences, perhaps dating back to your childhood? Or did these result from current experience that distressed you? Or did these come from from an experience of rejection from someone you admired and valued?
Whatsoever you uncover during this time of self examination, the significant thing is to expel the negative emotions that threaten to cause misery, frustration and displeasure that tend to damage your relationships. Take control of yourself and your life. This is the onlu way that you will be able to develop lasting relationships. And this will be your first step as you set sail on your journey to save the relationship and get back the love you lost.
