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1. Dare to ask for what you want.
If you have low self-esteem you will probably find this extremely difficult. Try to ask for what you want even if it's difficult and your self-esteem will grow at the same time as your career chances will improve. There may be things at your work that you are not requested to do but that you would like to do. Perhaps you can see something that you think should be done that nobody has thought of before. Everyone will benefit if you ask if you may do that task even if it is outside your area. You may have some ideas of things that could be changed that would make it easier for you to work effectively and happily. Do you want better lighting? Warmer temperature? A radio? Whatever you want, ask for it! The response may be a no, but in that case you have at least asked. In most cases your boss or co-workers will be happy that you asked. When you design your own work place and your own role and position at your work, you will do a much better job, you will feel more useful and appreciated, and you will be recognised as a more valuable employee.
2. Say no.
Saying no is also difficult for those with low self-esteem but the better you learn to say no, the higher your self-esteem will grow. Saying no is like the other side of the coin of asking for what you want. To be in control of your career and design it in your own way you need to not only make sure that you get what you want but you also that you stop getting what you do not want. If your boss or a colleague asks you to do something that you do not want to do, say no (unless it's an inescapable part of your job)! When you say no you show yourself respect. This makes others pay you more respect as well. Your self-esteem will raise and others esteem for you will raise too. Instead of wasting your time on things that do not give you a feeling of satisfaction, you should use your talents on the things that you feel good about doing. When you do what you enjoy you will be the most effective, and thus others will benefit too. Everybody wins when you use use your talents only on what they should be used for.
3. Ask yourself: What doI want?
To build a successful career you need to figure out what you really want to do, and then do it. The biggest reason to why people get stuck in jobs that they do not like is that they do not know what they would like to do instead. The biggest reason as to why people don't know what they want is low self-esteem. By listening to yourself and asking yourself what you want, you develop self-esteem. Once you know exactly what you really want with your career you will find a way to figure out how to get there. The first step of actually figuring out what you want is the most important. Put yourself first. Don't think about what others would like you to do with your career. If you listen to others you will never become as effective as you could be and then everybody suffers. Therefore, put yourself first for everybody's sake.
