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Do We Need Marriage Counseling?
After spending over 10 years in a marriage relationship and you encounter one morning the words, "I am tired of living this way, I don't love you anymore....", what would be your response? For most it would be devasting because they never saw it coming. We live so much of a busy life that we miss the signs of a downward spiralling relationship.
The spouse who made the announcement has no other communication that allows us to fix the problem. Of course, the natural order is to locate a "third-party referree" to solve our problem--a marriage counselor.
The technology age has afforded us with problem solving "gurus" on our marital situation. The hope is that we can find an answer in a bottle that took us 10 years to create. Also note that these "specialist" may be experts because they are from the outside looking in (not married) or have experienced similar problems and resolved them by going through a divorce. Be very specific if you need to choose a professional that can be partial in their consultation.
Self-Directed Marriage Counseling--Communication First
You may be able to find the time, save money and enhance the relationship by taking simple steps toward communication first. Do you leave conversations unresolved? Are you or your spouse the type to issue the "silent treatment"? Is their a chance that we cannot go "forward" toward resolution because we are going "backwards" rehearsing the same issues?
Marriage relationships in general are similar to sporting events. Sometimes a time out is to be issued to find a place for "peace". Without time out sessions to refocus the relationship goals, we find ourselves not communicating and the parties involved are unable to get what they need to work as a team.
How do I get this time to work toward peace?
Marriage Counseling Can Be Secondary to MyPeaceClock.com
How can the Marriage and Relationship PeaceClock help in communicating with my spouse?
The PeaceClock is a "communication" tool. When used properly the PeaceClock will: Help to maintain open lines of communication between you and your partner. Keep you informed of the status of your relationship. Provide guided "actions" and "formats" for resolving problems in your relationships. It allows individuals to experience a "do-it-yourself" session on working through issues through journals and time monitors.
Each occurence is monitored allowing each party to displays the total amount of time spent AT PEACE, the amount of time spent in the current state of the relationship and the amount of time it takes for a partner to respond to a moderate or serious issue.
The other features of the program offers:
a. My Journal - "My Life" in my words and my pictures
b. My Calendar - My special dates and times
c. My Relationship Log - My private record of my relationship.
d. My Friends - Allowed peeks into my Journal
e. My Support Group - Allowed peeks into my relationship.
Marriage is a sacred bond. Understanding and Knowledge through Communication is a key to a successful marriage. If all fails then consider a marriage and/spiritual counselor. Please note that we are not adverse in the use of marriage counselors. However, we want you to make every effort to use communication tools before seeking these professionals. Consequently, marriage counselors can use this tool also to assist in the effective management of relationships in their practice.
For additional information, go to MyPeaceClock and express a comment or question.
