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Has it ever occurred to you that children are very observant of what goes on between their parent and the kind of relationship that exists between them? And they tend to develop their system of value to such a pattern. If parents really love and honour each other, it will affect the thinking and the behavior of their children positively, it will also affect the way they see and treat each other and it will also affect the way they treat their spouses when they eventually get married in the later years. Make your spouse your closest companion, crack joke and laugh when both of you are in the kitchen or in your parlor or in your bedroom.
You may not be aware that your children are watching the way you treat their father or mother, the things that you do and the reason why you do them. They are very attentive to the things you say, the reason why you say them and the way you said it. They observe the way you appreciate the time things are rosy in the family and the time things are not too rosy, they watch the way you react when your spouse does things that you like and also the way you react when your spouse does things that you don't like but always have it in mind that whichever way you choose they will definitely adopt the same way and method.
Say to them positive things about your spouse, tell them that your spouse is the hardworking type, smart and sharp learner. Always complement each other before your children and never you berate yourselves in their presence. You have to reflect the life of love in your family so that they can have something to emulate and develop upon when they set their own family in the later years.
Develop the attitude of kindness, be helpful and appreciative, be a true friend, encourager and confidant. Do things together in a loving manner, always remember that the golden rule does not say that you should do unto others as they deserve but as you would want them to do unto you.
Try all your best to avoid emotional outburst, develop the attitude of settling disagreement without threatening, yelling, or using of bad language. Moreover, be humble enough to admit your fault when you are at fault and if you are the offended always learn to forgive without retaliating or harboring of grudges with your spouse, then you'll discover that your children will not find it difficult at all to develop the habit of forgiveness likewise.
