subject: Stop Break Up Get Ex Back – Responsibility… [print this page] Stop Break Up Get Ex Back Responsibility
The first thing to understand or rather remember is that No situation, (however good or bad) is ever permanent... And that you absolutely can influence this outcome as with any other, simply by choosing how you act and the steps you take
Things may not be going the way you would have planned but change is an inevitable fact of life and you probably have more influence and control over this outcome than you now imagine
I understand this is a delicate situation, your feelings are hurt, and of course it is difficult for you to be objective, but this is exactly what you must now do if you seriously want to stop this break up and get your ex back if you act from pure emotion or wallow in self pity, you run the very real risk of making things worse
Do not beg, do not plead, and do not feel sorry for yourself you're very first move is clear, take a step back, knowing there is a better way, based on human nature and the very real law of cause and effect
What!
Cause and effect is this guy nuts!
I want for a moment to look at what is perhaps an unpopular consideration you might need to make, when it comes to figuring out how to stop the break up and get your ex back
And that's... What was your contribution to the cause the break up?
YepI know, but one finger pointing forward, still leaves three fingers pointing back so just for this exercise let's take a look at us
I know if you're feeling hurt right now this may not be exactly what you want to hear, but I have your best interests at heart when I say you need to consider your part taking responsibility at some level is also a great healerand an important part of letting go of blame the blame that keeps you feeling resentment, the resentment that's keeping you apart
Even if at this moment you're feeling let down and that the situation is totally not your fault take a step back and you will find there probably was something you were either doing or not doing that contributed to the break up after all, we're human and none of us perfect as the saying goes "no matter how flat you make the pancakethere will always be two sides!"
Please give it a little thought
Ok so you might see that here and there, were times when you could have acted a little differently, but for one reason or another things panned out as they did no problem, this is not about blame, we all have situations where we could have acted differently so what's the point Well the point is not to make you feel bad or at fault but to allow you the opportunity to change focus for a moment, and to concentrate on the part of the equation over which you have greatest influence yourself
This is where the solution begins not with your ex, but with you
> If you were at fault, ok by now you know it if you were not cool, but now you are looking in the right direction at where the solution is going to come from namely how you decide to act from this point on
Believe me when I tell you, there is real power in forgiveness of others and of yourself I'm not saying you need to jump on the phone or run around shouting "I forgive you!" what I am saying is, that forgiveness is a personal state of mind, and it frees you up to move on, and see things clearly, and clarity is exactly what you need right now
After that if you want to stop your break up and get your ex backwhat you need next is a plan
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