subject: How To Save A Marriage In Crisis Essential Advice You Really Ought To Know! [print this page] When a couple first get married everything feels great. However after a while, the excitement and intensity of being married dies off and the honeymoon phase is well and truly over. It is generally at this point that marriages can and often do, start to fall apart. This can lead to feelings of disappointment, failure and quite often anger. If you are in a similar situation and are desperately looking for answers on how to save a marriage in crisis, then here is some essential advice you really ought to know.
Firstly I want to tell you that you are not alone. About 3 years ago my marriage was going down the pan quicker than I could say "marriage guidance" It was a really tough time and I didn't know where to turn for help. But I knew that I didn't want to just throw in the towel. I wanted to fight to save my marriage. So after what seemed like endless hours looking for answers, I can across some information that started to turn my marriage around.
One of the first things that I was asked to do is to accept and come to terms with my part in the failure of our marriage. I needed to apologize to my partner (even if I didn't think that it was my entire fault) and tell them that I would make a concerted effort to try to fix the things that I have done that damaged the relationship. This is because once part of the blame has been accepted it becomes far easier to move forward on every level.
Secondly I was asked to change the way that I thought about my marital situation! For example; instead of feeling angry and frustrated, I was asked to try to focus on positive ways to get my marriage back on track. This had a two fold effect. Firstly it gave my partner a clear message that I was going to try to save this marriage, even if they were not prepared to. Secondly it made my partner see that I was changing in a positive way. What I found is that after a short while, every positive action that I took towards saving my marriage, no matter how small, resulted in a positive reaction from my partner. If I felt negative and down at any time then this would not be directed at my spouse.
The next step I was asked to take in order to help save my marriage crisis was to sit down with my partner and let them talk openly and honestly to me, with no interruption or anger on my part, about how they felt, regarding the situation we found ourselves in. I knew that I was going to hear some stuff that I did not want to hear, but I realised that I had to know what my faults were in order for me to put them right. This then gave me a starting point to work from. I figured that if I could "clean up my side of the street" so to speak, then this in turn would hopefully spur my partner into action.
Following this advice did indeed start to turn my marriage round quickly. However this is only the tip of the iceberg. My marriage didn't fall apart overnight and therefore it was never going be fixed overnight, so I knew I still had a long way to go. So if you are like me and are willing to do all you can to fix your marriage and would like to know how to save a marriage in crisis, then you need to visit www.marriagefixer.info for essential marriage saving information that you cannot afford to miss.
