subject: My Wife Wants a Divorce, I Want Her Back - How to Make Her Feel the Same Way [print this page] My Wife Wants a Divorce, I Want Her Back - How to Make Her Feel the Same Way
Your wife wants a divorce, and you want her back. What are you going to do? This is surely not an easy time for you right now. After all, when you first got married, I am sure that the last thing that you had on your mind was that you would end up facing the prospects of getting a divorce, did you? Most divorces end up taking one person by complete surprise and quite often, it ends up being the guy.
While you might feel kind of lost right now, there is some hope. You need to really be assured that there is a part of your wife that still wants to work things out. After all, just like you, she was probably never thinking that she would end up getting divorced.
Here is how you can change her mind and make her want to work things out:
1. When it comes to a divorce, you have to act FAST.
Usually I recommend that guys proceed with patience when it comes to getting back a girlfriend, but in terms of saving your marriage, you want to be a little faster in your approach. That does not mean that you want to rush things so fast that you are trying to get her back tomorrow. What you want to do is to find your balance between acting fast and still being patient enough that she does not feel rushed into a decision.
2. You have to change the way that she feels about you.
One thing that you really need to know about male-female relationships, is that women are willing to work things out as long as the attraction is there, the chemistry and the passion is still there. If that stuff is missing, then she is not going to be nearly as willing to try and "work" things out. Actually, when the attraction is STONG enough, sometimes things just kind of work themselves out on their own.
3. You need to know how to use female psychology as your ally and not your enemy.
When guys are facing a serious relationship breaking up or a divorce, they usually look at the female way of thinking, the female psychology as being their enemy. They don't understand her, they don't know what the "right thing" to do is, and they are confused. When you see that same female psychology as being your ally, and you learn how to work with it to make her feel attracted to you again, getting her back will be so much EASIER.
