subject: Is He a Player or For Real? Knowing the Difference [print this page] Is He a Player or For Real? Knowing the Difference
Have you been spending time with a really great guy and you're starting to wonder if he might just be a player? Does he have all the right lines and all the smooth moves, but you think he might be a little too practiced? Are you already feeling strong emotions for him and you want to figure him out before this goes too far? Guys are great at deceiving women and when they want sex, they are experts at it. Here's how to separate the playful boys from the trustworthy men.
Quite simply, start by refusing to easily jump into bed with him. The player who only wants sex is only going to tough it out so long. Realizing that he's losing, he'll tire of the game and move to easier prey.
If he's been patient and he's still around, check out how often he calls you. When a guy is really interested in a girl, he wants to see her and often. He'll contact you even when he doesn't have anything in particular to say, just to hear your voice or with the hopes of seeing you again.
He only calls once in a while? You guessed it you're not very important in his life.
And what happens when you try to reach him? If he's vague and elusive, there's a good chance you're not the only one he's playing with. The guy who is interested in a real romance will be on the up and up. He'll be easy to contact and he won't hesitate to tell you where he is or what he's doing.
Then you want to look at his ability to keep his word. The guy who throws around grand promises without ever bringing them to fruition is most likely going to lead you to heartache. He'll promise you the world, most likely with the hope of getting you into bed, then completely forget what he said the moment he's had his fill.
Let your heart melt to the guy who'll tell it like it is. Perhaps his promises aren't as elaborate as a player's, but at least he's staying true to his word.
A really cute player can be hard to let go of, but if you're honest with yourself, you'll know it's a real man you want it your life.
