subject: Signs And Signals Of A Cheating Spouse (part 2) [print this page] I've already discussed some signs and signals of a cheating spouse. Many people have said that there will be signals, and I have to agree with them. The key is for the scorned, or the suspicious spouse to decide that they are going to pay attention to these signs and these signals. The signs might be covert, or they could be as clear as the nose on your face. But many people will ignore them, or they will proclaim ignorance to these signs. Why is this? Well, they say that love is blind, and that can be true. No one wants to believe that the person they loved and created a life with is giving their affections to another person. No one wants to face that betrayal of trust and commitment. But just because a person doesn't want to believe that these things are true, doesn't mean that these things aren't taking place. So what that said, I'll list more signs and signals to look out for if your spouse is a cheater:
1. Strange charges on your credit card statements: This is a huge giveaway. If there is a charge for a hotel stay that you know you've never been to, then this is a clear sign that your spouse is cheating. If there a purchases for things such as intimate items, jewelry, or restaurants that you know nothing about, then you know that there is cheating going on. Also another thing to be on the lookout for is strange withdraws from banking accounts. Sometimes a spouse will spend money behind the other spouse's back for various reasons. But if there are large amounts of money missing, then this is a huge indicator of something being wrong. One more tell-tale sign is if a bank statement comes in for your spouse, and you knew nothing about this separate account. This would indicate a separate account that could be used for at the very least, deceptive practices. With this separate account, credit cards could be attached to it that can be used for secret meetings with their lover.
2. They will try to tell you that you are crazy, or that you are making things up: This line of defense is not only more common than you may think, but it is also abusive. Although it's abusive, I know that when a person is guilty, and if they are a coward, they will manipulate you into thinking that you are just being insecure, or that you are making things up. You might even start to question your own sanity, or your intuition. You might start to go out of your own way to get the proof that you need. The fact is that if your gut tells you things aren't right, they probably aren't.
3. They tell you it's your fault that you feel this way: This is a variation of point number 2. This is flat out abusive, and manipulative.
If you encounter any of the signs that I mentioned, then you might want to find a way to prove your point. You deserve to know the truth not only for yourself, but also for the courts if you decide to pursue divorce.
