subject: How To Win Your Ex Back - How Desperate Are You? [print this page] How To Win Your Ex Back - How Desperate Are You?
In light of a recent break up, are you scrambling for a way to win your ex back? You are broken-hearted and truly love them. You wish you could reverse time and change what happened. While you cannot go back to fix the wrongs, you can move forward and win your ex back by heeding these important suggestions and tips.
You might be really lonely and desperately want to get back with your ex. As desperate as you might be, do not use this very strong emotion to guide your first steps after a break up. The last thing you want to do is rush back to your ex - under any circumstances. You and your ex are still probably emotional over the break up and when it comes to making rational choices, this is not a great time. Truth be told, you have a better chance to win your ex back if you take some time apart.
Giving them breathing room and some time to process the break up, will be beneficial. During the time you are apart, it is important that communication cease as well. When we have desperate feelings, it is too easy to say things, or make promises meant only as a way to get back together. As well, the way your words are taken might be mis-read as well. If you want to win back your ex, then no phone calls, no emails, no texting, no letters, and no personal visits.
During the time apart, you need to remain calm, positive and "together". There is little use in brooding over the break up, and putting on a pathetic outward appearance will not be very appealing to your ex. If they see that you are happy and upbeat, they soon will realize you are doing okay without them. This will drive them crazy, and they will start to wonder what else they are missing out on in your life. What better way to drive your ex back to you than curiosity?
Your efforts to remain positive and upbeat can be accomplished by finding things to do that keep you in a positive frame of mind. Getting together with your friends for an outing, taking a trip to your favorite place, or treating yourself at your favorite store are some great suggestions. What you might not realize during this time is that, while you remain happy and fill your day with positive encounters, you are building on your self-image and self-esteem.
If after a few weeks and your ex has not responded to you, it might be time to contact them and offer to get together for lunch or a walk in the park. It might be that they are not good at making the first move and fear rejection, so do not automatically assume their non-communication as a bad thing. If they accept your invitation, use the time together to talk about the positive times you had together, and how those moments made you feel. Breaking the ice after a break up might have to start with you. Dwelling on the break up and other negatives is not recommended, there will be a time and place for that later on.
If you get anything out of this, I hope you understand that desperate measures will get you no where. Too many times it is easy for you to resort to this mode, and it can put their relationship and any chances to win your ex back in jeopardy. There truly is a right and a wrong way to win your ex back. Do you know the difference?
Many other couples have gone through what you are going through right now, and have quickly and easily rebuilt a relationship destroyed by a break up. I know you really love them and want them back, and if you take a moment to visit my website, http://getmyexbacktome.com, I hope you will soon realize that the odds are in your favor.
