subject: Cope With Guilt In Healthy Ways [print this page] Most time our memories are not very accurate; your feeling of the guilt may be come from something that really did not happen the way you remember it.
1. Ask yourself what you guilt is about. If you are guilty about not giving service on the church landscaping committee, is it since you really do not have time, or because you do not like the other person? Maybe you really want to do as much as possible for the church, but landscaping just isn't it. Spend some moments examining the real motivation behind the guilty, but not just wallowing in it.
2. Understand that a sense of guilt does not often indicate that what you have done was not right. For example, if you are guilty about deciding it was much more meaningful to relax with a book than to have coffee with your always-in-a-crisis friend, that shows you are learning to set limits and give some more time for yourself. In case like this, you need to have confidence to acknowledge that you made the right choice.
3. Say no at lease once in a day - no guilt allowed.
4. Begin to write a guilt diary. Every time you are guilt about something, write it down in your diary. Keep the moment, the day, what you feel guilty about. Then return to your diary each two weeks to look for the trends in your guilty. It can give you some clues to the source of your guilt that can enable you to cop with its underlying roots.
5. Avoid asking, "What if?" Instead, start asking, "What now?" In other word, you need to stop thinking about those things you have already done and you can not alter, and you are supposed to focus on the present, what you could do today to let your life and the world around you much better.
6. Think those healthy benefits of some of the most guilt-introducing foods. For instance, the dark chocolate is rich in heart-healthy antioxidants. Red wine can benefit for your heart, cholesterol, and other heart markers. You can get healthy dose of vitamin E from a handful of mixed nuts. You can gain a dose of fiber from a box of popcorn. You need to remember that moderation in all the things.
7. Have a conversation with a relative or friend who can help you recall the incident about which you are guilty about. Most time our memories are not very accurate; your feeling of the guilt may be come from something that really did not happen the way you remember it.
8. Do not get caught up in blaming. Most people will tend to assign blame to themselves for anything which goes wrong, big or small. But that is a bad way in this complex world of ours. On the contrary, you need to take some more forgiving approach to this world and understand that something occur on their own momentum sometimes, as a result of the events which can not be blamed on any one person.
