subject: Don't Let Fear Keep You From Meeting Exciting Women! [print this page] Don't Let Fear Keep You From Meeting Exciting Women!
Let's start at the beginning - you can't have a successful date if you can't ask her out! Approach anxiety is landing in the way of your happiness, and it must be overcome!
People who study interpersonal relationships are studying this, trying to see if there's a way to overcome approach anxiety. Some people think that approach anxiety is hardwired into our genetic makeup. Others insist that approach anxiety actually can be overcome.
Approach anxiety has been overcome by many men using these suggestions:
The 3-second Rule
This concept can be implemented easily. It's easy to understand: many men will spot a woman they'd like to meet, and then spend half the night wondering whether to approach her, and how. But it's obvious that the more time spent thinking about it, the less likely that any meeting will take place! Don't give the fear any time to build up. Within 3 seconds of seeing a woman you want to meet, approach her. To be effective, you've got to commit to doing this all the time. Don't waste time or opportunities thinking up exceptions or excuses, though, or you won't have any time left for meeting wonderful women! Now, there are going to be circumstances when it really won't make sense to follow the 3-second rule, for example she's sitting in a restaurant booth with romantic lighting with a boyfriend or husband. But if you're in a club, at the beach, in the park, in a grocery store, or nearly any other situation where you can talk out loud, go for it!
How the Power of Money Overcomes Approach Anxiety
A high degree of success has been reported with this method, but it requires that you have a wingman with you. Sometimes, just having a buddy there watching is sufficient motivation - I mean, who wants to shame himself in front of his friends by being afraid to get out there and meet the women you really want to meet?
If you're still holding back, though, even with your wingman watching, try this: hand him $100 in tens or twenties. Here's how it works: every time you approach a woman and talk with her, he gives you back $10 or $20, based on some criteria you two agree on beforehand. The motivation here is simple: not meeting women can be costly!
Of course, in the final analyses, these are just patches, temporary fixes for a problem. At the end of the night, no matter how many women you've met, the problem is still there. To permanently remove approach anxiety from your makeup, you're going to have to put some time and effort into determining its root cause and dealing with that.
Despite the claims of those who claim that approach anxiety is hereditary, I think that it's a learned response.
I think that when all the extraneous stuff is swept aside, the one consistent factor influencing approach anxiety is shame.
It's shame that you're feeling when you're experiencing approach anxiety. Perhaps there are elements of your own makeup, like your sexuality, that you're not really comfortable with, or perhaps you don't feel deserving of having such an exciting woman in your life. Who knows? No two people are alike, and it's not good to paint people with a broad brush.
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