subject: Ways To Get Your Ex Back And Put The Hurt Behind You After A Relationship Breakup [print this page] Are you struggling with the hurt and broken heart from a recent breakup? Were the holidays more than you could bear without your loved one? It is natural to want to get back with your ex but it is important that you achieve this using the right tools and resources to help you win back your lost love. This article discusses some ways to get your ex back and put the hurt behind you after a relationship breakup.
Most people that go through a breakup and try to get back with an ex only make the situation worse and push their ex farther away. This is because most do not have any real understanding on how to successfully get back with an ex. If you want to successfully get back with the man or woman that you are still in love with, you need a better understanding of how to implement you plan to win back your ex.
The first step of course is self reflection. If the relationship was perfect, chances are you would not be dealing with a broken heart because your girlfriend/boyfriend, husband/wife left you. More chances than not, the entire relationship, or the period close to the end, was filled with all kinds of drama. If you even have a chance of getting back your ex, you need to get right with yourself.
Hopefully this time for self reflection should be done far away from your ex. Contact if any with your ex, should be minimal at best. If you persist in trying to get in touch with your ex, you will only cause confusion to yourself when you need to operate with a clear mind.
Try to stop all communication with your ex. If he or she contacts you, be civil and brief with them. This is not a time for you to grovel. You will need to learn to stand on your own two feet independent from your ex until you feel that you are over the worst of the breakup.
Stopping all communication with your ex does not mean that you become a recluse. You need your loved ones to surround you during this time and you do not need to go through the breakup alone. If you spend too much time alone, you will only end up feeling alone and depressed which will only cause you to do the wrong things such as getting in touch with your ex and begging your ex to take you back. If you have to force yourself to get out of the house or spend time with your old friends or make new friends, do it, even if you do not want to.
Self reflection will allow you to see what role you played in the break up. Your ex may be to blame but it takes two to tango and you can only control yourself. In order for you to win back your ex, you need to get clear about what led to the break up and your role in it so that you do not keep repeating the same mistakes. Once you know better, you do better.
As you try to get back your ex, you need to recognize your weaknesses and the triggers for bad behavior. You may want to get an independent opinion from a professional or close family or friends. We can get so caught up in our thoughts that we cannot see the forest from the trees and sometimes hearing what someone else independent of the situation says can be eye opening and give you a different perspective on your relationship breakup and your ex.
This time will also allow to consider whether the relationship and your ex was good for you in the first place. If you decide that there is so much to salvage from your relationship with your ex and you truly feel that your ex is the man or woman for you, you may be able to get your ex back.
If you are serious and have done the necessary work on yourself, you may be able to get your ex back and restore the relationship. A relationship breakup does not necessarily doom the prospects of you and him or her getting back together ever again and having a relationship that was better than before.
