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In the days after you've been discovered cheating you'll make a lot of promises in order to try and work things out between the two of you. The real work doesn't begin though until the dust settles and you both get busy trying to work things out and regain the trust that's been lost along the way.
There are all kinds of lies that go along with cheating. The lies you tell each other and the lies you tell yourself when you look in the mirror. It's hard to live with all that dishonesty. The only thing harder is trying to break free of it once the truth comes out.
The truth really can set you free. But, it doesn't make it any easier for those you've hurt along the way learn to trust again. Here are a few things that just might help.
1) Show him you can be trusted. Don't tell him. Be where you say you'll be and do what you say you'll do. These things will accomplish more good for your efforts to win back trust than anything else. Always be honest and never get caught out of place without a darned good reason for being where you are.
2) Avoid giving too much information. It's odd how that works but volunteering too much information can be seen as a sign that you have something to hide. Avoid providing too many details unless specifically asked lest you be thought to be up to no good.
3) Be consistent. One of the most important things you can do is be consistent when you tell him where you've been, who you've been with, where you're going, who you'll be going with, and what time he can expect you home afterwards. Don't be late and don't get caught where you aren't expected to be if you want to really regain his trust.
4) Be persistent. You might have good days and bad days. There will be times when you'll feel like you're getting nowhere. That's really to be expected all things considered. What you don't want is to create a situation where you are in a downhill spiral and showing no signs of effort on your part. Don't be upset when he shows that he's having a hard time trusting you. Be patient and be persistent in your efforts to regain his trust. If you do all these things it will happen in its own time.
