subject: Stop Trying to get back at Your Cheating Ex and get Your Cheating Ex Back [print this page] Stop Trying to get back at Your Cheating Ex and get Your Cheating Ex Back
You've been hurt. You are angry and in pain. Your first instinct is to lash out at the source of your pain but deep down inside you know you aren't really interested in ways to get back at your cheating ex. What you really want is to focus your efforts on how to get your cheating ex back instead.
The problem is that you have no idea where to begin. It seems so simple when it's someone else's relationship you're looking at. When it's your heart on the line the view is very different.
You understand that he cheated on you. You know how much it hurts but you also know that you love him enough that you are willing to forgive him this one time.
What you want is to get him back. So, what's the problem?
Get his Attention
The most difficult thing is going to be getting his attention. You can't really get him back if you don't get his attention first and that seems much easier said than done at the moment.
The problem is that you hurt his pride when you kicked him to the curb. While that isn't exactly how it happened, it is how he sees things and you have to overcome his interpretation of events before either of you can move forward.
How do you get his attention? That's the million dollar question. There are generally three ways you can get his attention.
1) Working a little magic with words.
2) Letting news of your deeds reach his ears.
3) Turning his head.
Make a Statement that Matters to Him
Once you've gotten his attention, you're going to have to work a little bit to keep it. He's not likely to accept your apology and welcome you with open arms without thinking about it a little. Probably, he's going to want to think things over a lot.
For this reason alone you need to make a bold enough statement once you do get his attention that you'll be able to keep his attention and interest while he mulls things over.
This is a time when the heat of emotion can carry you both away if you aren't careful. Feelings have been hurt, trust has been breached, and hearts have been broken. Handle your statement (and any that come after) with great care.
You need to make sure you plead your case in a manner that will have him interested in what you have to say and eager to hear more. State your case clearly and then walk away to give him the time he needs to figure out what he wants to happen next. The next move needs to be his.
