subject: How to Gain Confidence - A Quick Way to Boost Your Confidence [print this page] I don't know if you've been thereI don't know if you've been there. I certainly have. It's when you feel like you can't do anything right. It's when even simple things seem hard. It's when life seems to be going so bad that you can't believe it. This is around the time that you start losing confidence in yourself. This is around the time people lose faith in themselves and their abilities. And they start using the word "failure" to describe themselves. I can honestly say that those times in my life when I've felt like that have been truly awful. When you are feeling low and miserable, it can be hard to try and maintain or build your confidence. After all, you feel like you have plenty of evidence that you are no good since you can't seem to do anything right. The key here is to change your focus. When we feel down, we start focusing on what's bad. My memory when I have been down has seemed to be very selective. Only remembering the bad things that have happened in my past. And only remembering the bad things in my life at the moment. Any good stuff is discounted. Any achievements are forgotten. It's poison for our self-confidence. So the first thing is to change your focus. To do this, an easy thing to do is to write down any successes you have had in life. And I mean anything! When you feel really down, it may be hard to think of any achievements but if you think hard you will have to acknowledge things that you have done in the past that have been successes. Remember, even the smallest of successes counts. Once you start writing, you'll find it easier and easier to come up with successes. The aim is to write down at least 30-50, preferably more. The trick here is to not start saying "Oh, but that's not a real success". Just stay focussed on anything that made a difference in your life or someone else's. As you get better at this, you'll be able to find success in almost everything you do. Try and do this every day if you can. The act of focussing on successes will give you a quick boost when you're feeling down, and lay the ground for more and more success. I don't know if you've been there. I certainly have. It's when you feel like you can't do anything right. It's when even simple things seem hard. It's when life seems to be going so bad that you can't believe it. This is around the time that you start losing confidence in yourself. This is around the time people lose faith in themselves and their abilities. And they start using the word "failure" to describe themselves. I can honestly say that those times in my life when I've felt like that have been truly awful. When you are feeling low and miserable, it can be hard to try and maintain or build your confidence. After all, you feel like you have plenty of evidence that you are no good since you can't seem to do anything right. The key here is to change your focus. When we feel down, we start focusing on what's bad. My memory when I have been down has seemed to be very selective. Only remembering the bad things that have happened in my past. And only remembering the bad things in my life at the moment. Any good stuff is discounted. Any achievements are forgotten. It's poison for our self-confidence. So the first thing is to change your focus. To do this, an easy thing to do is to write down any successes you have had in life. And I mean anything! When you feel really down, it may be hard to think of any achievements but if you think hard you will have to acknowledge things that you have done in the past that have been successes. Remember, even the smallest of successes counts. Once you start writing, you'll find it easier and easier to come up with successes. The aim is to write down at least 30-50, preferably more. The trick here is to not start saying "Oh, but that's not a real success". Just stay focussed on anything that made a difference in your life or someone else's. As you get better at this, you'll be able to find success in almost everything you do. Try and do this every day if you can. The act of focussing on successes will give you a quick boost when you're feeling down, and lay the ground for more and more success.
How to Gain Confidence - A Quick Way to Boost Your Confidence
