subject: Relationship Advice - Learn To Let Go Of The Past To Experience Better Relationships! [print this page] Relationship Advice - Learn To Let Go Of The Past To Experience Better Relationships!
If you are looking to achieve better relationships, you are not alone. Most of us encounter problems of one kind or another in our interactions with people. Experiencing constant anger, conflict, anxiety or depression may mean you are holding onto past memories, that are keeping you stuck in negative ways of relating.The thing is that you may be unaware that this is creating havoc in your life. In order to enjoy better relationships, you need to be willing to apply some new tools to your life such as:1.Clearing the past. The most important thing is to remember that every day affords you a brand new start. That means choosing to release whatever has happened in the past,in order to move forward.Most of us choose to unconsciously carry all the grievances we have had over the years with us. We react from this backlog of unfinished business when our buttons get pushed, creating more conflict and negative feeling.If you are serious about creating better relationships,then you need to clear the cobwebs in order to be present in the moment. If you are reacting negatively to people then write out your feelings and then burn the piecee of paper. Let it all go and start afresh.2. Forgiveness. If you want better relationships then you need to realise that people are doing their best, in whatever way they are behaving. Remember that you are also learning and making mistakes, so forgiving yourself and others is vital.Forgiveness opens the way for positive relating. Let go of wanting to get even or holding hurts and resentments, as they will just make you a bitter, lonely person. Be gracious. Be forgiving.3. Acceptance. Rather than judging and criticising yourself or another person, just accept them as they are. Peace and harmony will be the result. They may not be able to love you the way you want to be loved, but that does not make them a bad person, it just means that they cannot do things your way. Acceptance is the key to better relationships.4. Develop Patience. Things need time to blossom and grow. You don't plant a seed and in two seconds expect it to become a tree. You water it and daily. The same with relationships; you nurture them in order to help them grow. Every time you react negatively, you are neglecting them. Don't do so for long or they will simply wither and die.5. Give to receive. There is a universal law that says in order to receive, you first need to give. Choose to give love first if you want to be loved.I know it is easy to say and hard for most of us to do, because our instinct is to retreat into our shell when we feel hurt, not give more of ourselves. But, if we want better relationships then we need to extend love at difficult times.If you apply the above tips, you will be well on your way to creating better relationships with everyone in your life.
