subject: Is There Hope For Our Relationship? [print this page] Before you take steps to convince your ex to get back with you, you have to spend some time to decide if you still really want to get your ex back. Even though you can quickly say "yes" to this, give yourself a little more time to reflect on every aspect of your relationship before you try to save a relationship that may simply cause more pain and anguish for both parties.
If we look at the current trends, most relationships are still worth saving. However, if you would like to know when a relationship is not worthy of saving, at least not at the same level, here are some of the things that you need to ask yourself. Are you in an abusive relationship? Then, it is better if you get out of that relationship. Is your partner mentally unstable? Then, he or she has to settle their personal problems first before you fix your relationship.
If you are ready to start anew with your ex, do not be too pushy when it comes to reconnecting with your ex. Sending a lot of emails, calling every single day or leaving hourly voice messages is not cool. This is stalking and you will turn your ex off with this sign of desperation. While dropping him or her a line or two is fine, do not abuse the open lines of communication.
Keep yourself from begging or arguing. Even though it might be clear who was at fault, too much pleading for forgiveness or accusing your partner for his or her faults is a no-no. After the apologies were said, leave the past behind and move on. Dwelling to much on the past will not be helpful in healing your relationship.
Once you have decided that you and your ex can no longer get back together, you have to take steps to move on from that relationship. No matter how much you wish to bring back what you had, that is no longer possible. Making unending promises on how you would change is just as pathetic as stalking your ex or begging them to stay. Doing this might just make them push you farther away from them.
So what is the best thing for you to do? Give both you and your ex some time. This time apart will help each of you to grow. You can use this time to take on a new hobby. Or you can use this to deal with your behavioral issues that have been affecting your relationships. Later, when your ex is ready to speak with you, both of you will be thankful for that space that you had when you were not together. This also gives the two of you the opportunity to miss each other even more. And when both of you are ready, you will have the rest of your lives to make up for the lost time.
