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Dating should be fun, exciting and enjoyable. Whether your date will be a success or failure will depend on one person... YOU! Even if your date is not your ideal match, that doesn't mean you're not allowed to have fun and enjoy yourself.
Unfortunately, many singles feel dating is tedious, stressful and requires time they would rather put towards work or hobbies. And this is exactly why so many dates go sour.
Your perception towards meeting other people will greatly affect the way your date turns out. Many people who are discouraged with dating say things like "this will never work" or "I wish I was somewhere else" or "dating really sucks!".
This way of thinking is understandable, but will set you back years and keep you from finding the love of your life. How would you feel if the person you were meeting felt that "dating sucks"? Do you think a match will really happen with someone who says "All of my dates are horrible"?
What if you were the one saying these negative things? What impression do you think you are giving to the other person? Going into a date with a negative attitude will surely result in disappointment.
This is exactly why your journey to find true love starts with you. The way you think about dating, and men, needs to change from negative to positive first. Then, and only then, will you be able to follow these simple rules to find your life partner.
When on a date, always remember too...
1) Smile! - A great smile can have a powerful effect when you are on a date. It shows you are confident, fun loving and most importantly happy to be on a date! It will be a breath of fresh air for the guy after dating all those negative Nancy's.
2) Dress for success -Your outfit makes a difference. But more importantly, remember you are not dressing for your date. You are dressing up to make yourself feel good. Anything you can do to increase your self confidence will greatly increase your appeal. The best look for a date is a combination of classy and sexy. Never show stomach, cover your cleavage and choose a tighter fitting outfit.
3) Stop being so judgmental - According to Shoshanna, many people go into a date thinking the right person has to look, dress or talk a certain way. The fact is, your limiting beliefs may be keeping you from making a connection. Maybe the guy made a bad fashion choice for the first date. Maybe your date just got out of a bad relationship. Perhaps the guy has a good reason for not meeting your qualifications on the first date. The point is, give your date the benefit of the doubt and stay open minded.
4) Age is just a number - Stop being so hung up on age. Shoshanna's says, if your date is a little older or younger, that does not mean you are not compatible. In fact, rarely will people match up who are the same age. The reason is, people interact better with "new" personalities. Dating someone who is just like you will eventually turn you off. Give your dates a chance even if the age doesn't match up.
5) Confidence is key - Confidence is attractive. Remember that. Being confident means you consider yourself valuable. And if you think you have value, then so will your date. Confidence starts on the inside and the more you do to increase your self-confidence the more appeal you will have. That's a promise.
Also worth mentioning is respect. Make sure your date respects you. How, you ask? Just be honest and tell him you expect to be treated.
If the guy does not respect you on the first date, then chances are he will not respect you on the second or third either. In this case, move on and consider the date a valuable learning experience.
Just make sure that you understand this key point. Dating is fun and necessary. If you never went on dates you would be lonely, depressed and socially awkward.
Even if your date is not an ideal match, you should always stay positive and remember that you can learn something from every person you meet.
If your last few dates have been disastrous, Shoshanna recommends you change what you are doing. If all your bad dates were in the evening, plan future dates for the day time. If your previous dates were all expensive dinners, then plan a future date for tea or coffee. Learn from your bad dates and use your experiences to help you with your future dates.
If you are interested in getting matched up with upscale singles in the New York City area, feel free to call Shoshanna's Matchmaking Service at 1.800.996.3213.
