Now, numbers one through five are largely out ofyour immediate control. If you're not rich, you're probablynot going to get rich this week. If you're not famous ortall, you're probably not going to be in a hit movie orgrow 6 inches in the next 24 hours.So that leaves us with number six: PERSONALITY.The good news is that as far as I'm concerned, yourpersonality is your GREATEST ASSET in the success-withwomengame.
Fortunately, it's the one thing you can change. Andit's the one thing that can OVERCOME all the rest. Afteryou've done what you can to look your best, etc. youhave to develop a personality that's absolutely magnetic.Now let's talk about how you can do just that
By the way, the one quality that attracts women themost (and keeps them attracted) is not something thatthey can initially look' for. It's the way they FEEL whenthey are with you or thinking of you. If you don't havewealth, power, fame, or looks, you're going to have touse your personality to make them FEEL good. In theend, your personality is the most powerful asset youhave.
Personality Traits That Attract WomenI'm going to describe MY particular unique personality and the character' that I become when I'm meeting women.But before I do that, I'd like to talk about some of the different personality traits that women find most attractive. Some are better when used with others, and ome don't work well together. Here is the list with brief descriptions. I'll talk more about combining these later.
Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women.If you can keep her laughing, you will go far.
Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IFit's used in a way that's interesting to her. Use yourcreativity and intelligence to surprise her withideas, fantasies, and unexpected things that charmher.
Educated. Education is attractive to women aslong as it's used in an interesting way. Somewomen are actually intimidated by education,which usually works in your favor.
Classy and Cultured. If you have class, womenpick up on it. Do your shoes and belt match? Doyou understand interior design and color contrast?Do you know about different types of wine? Do youlike foreign movies? Do you understand fashion?Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exoticfoods? Do you serve her Hors d'oeuvres and a glassof wine when she visits? Do you open all doors forher? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.
Dominant. Women have an unconscious attractionto dominant men. The dominant males in someprimate groups account for up to 75% of all thematings, while the less dominant males go withoutany. Same goes for humans.
Thoughtful. Women don't just like gifts; they likeknowing that you were THINKING of them. The giftis a SYMBOL. Women feel the same amount ofgood inside whether it's a card or a diamond (ofcourse, the diamond lasts longer, so there aremore times of feeling good'!). But the fact is thatwomen like to know that you're thinking aboutthem. Even if you're telling a woman that you don'tlike it that she was out with another guy, she'll likeit because it means you were thinking about her!
Notices Significant Details. Women don't justnotice details; they USE them to try to beattractive and attentive. If she is wearing a sexyoutfit, she didn't put it on by accident. If her hair isdone nicely, it wasn't a fluke. Women are veryimpressed and attracted to men who notice thesedetails.
Unpredictable/Predictable. Here's a paradox.Women are drawn to men who they can't control orpredict. They obsess over guys who flirt, give themattention, and then don't call the next day.Predictability is only attractive when it comes tochoosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wantsa man who's VERY predictable.
Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a biggerturn-off than a killjoy. Some men get upset andpout when a woman is happy and try to put downthe things that she enjoys to sound superior, whichis usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is infectiousand attractive.
Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted tomen who like to do extreme, adventurous, unusual,and even dangerous things. It's exciting.Adventurism is sexy.
Aggressive. Women love men that know whatthey want and go after it. Passion is a sign of life.I'm not talking about the kind of aggressive thatturns into date rape. I'm talking about the kind ofaggressive that turns into setting a goal and thengoing after it with passion and getting it no matterwhat.
Confident/Cocky. Women are magneticallyattracted to men who are just a little bit too cocky.Just a little bit. This is a tough one to explain. Manymen take this to mean overly arrogant', which isnot what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan inThe Thomas Crown Affair', Clarke Gable in GoneWith The Wind', or Tom Cruise in Top Gun', you'llget an idea of what I'm talking about. Theconfident/cocky trait is mild overconfidencecombined with with humor. Drives women wild
Expertise. If you're an expert in an area that isinteresting to your kind of woman, this can beattractive. It needs to be presented from a "I knowa lot about this, let me show you" perspective andnot a "I'm cool and you're not" angle.
Attention. Women like attention. And interestinglyenough, it's better to hint at the attention that you're giving them than to be too overt about it. If you say, "I was thinking about you earlier today,and I just wanted to mention that I really like the sound of your voice..." it's much more powerfulthan listening to them complain about something so they think you're paying attention. Get it?
Disinterest, Indifference, a Challenge. Mostwomen are used to being pursued by men in oneway or another. If you are indifferent to a woman,make her think that you're only calling becauseyou're bored and act almost disinterested sexually,they'll often do their very best to get yourattention. Different is good in this case. Again, thisdrives most women crazy, and even though they'dhate to admit it, it's ultra interesting to them.
Charm (attention with a polished, smoothapproach). This is hard to describe. Watch a JamesBond movie to get an idea. And watch Dirty RottenScoundrels'. Pay attention to Michael Caine'scharacter. Charm is powerful because it has acertain prince on a white horse' aspect to it.
Romantic Imagination and Perspective. Watchthe movie Don Juan DeMarco' and listen to howDon Juan interprets the world. Instead of justlooking at the surface of a woman, he looks withinher to find the beautiful part. A romanticimagination sees opportunities for poeticcomments, interesting stories, fascinating history,and emotional interpretation in everything.
Expert in Body Language. This is important, aswomen are constantly sending signals. I'll talkmore about this in a later chapter.
Sexual Mastery. Women love sex just as much asmen do. But just like everything else in life, a great
How Women Test Men And WhyIn my opinion, most women, especially the hotties',have gone through a learning curve here in our westernculture that has on average given them a sort ofpredictable psychological makeup'. Now, there aredifferences between these women some are smart,some are not some are tall, some are short some arecerebral, some are physical etc. etc. etc but there arethings that most of them have in common. I've made astudy of these things because this is what interests me.
At some point in their lives, hotties began to betreated differently because they were attractive. Imentioned the social psychology concept earlier calledThe Halo Effect'. Simply stated, attractive people areassumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy,etc. than others. The fact that people do whatever thehottie wants begins to blur their sense of reality andmakes them believe that they can have whatever theywant whenever they want it AND THAT'S JUST THE WAYLIFE IS. (This applies in general.)
You'll notice that many super-hotties will throwtantrums if they don't like what's going on or aren'tgetting their way this is a sure sign that they are notliving in the same reality as most people when theydon't get what they want, they get upset because this hasworked since they were little
Now, on a subconscious level, I've noticed that mosthot women realize that they are being ridiculous whenthey act like bitches, throw tantrums, etc. but it doesn'treally matter because it still WORKS for them when theywant what they want are you with me?Underneath all of this behavior, they are still FEMALEand they are looking for what other females are alsolooking for
What are women looking for?Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years ofstudying people, Freud said that there was one questionthat he didn't have the answer to "What do womenwant?" Nice.
BUT, here's my take on it: First and foremost, theywant a man who is in CONTROL (of the situation, himself,his emotions, other people, her control of the entirereality that they share).Let me ask you, if you were a woman who wantedto test a man to see if he will stay in control, how would youdo it? Would you ask the man, "If I get out of hand, willyou spank me and put me in my place?"NO WAY!!!
So they test us by CHALLENGING us to see if we'llstay in control. The reason I do all of this "Never give awoman a direct answer unless it's NO Never give awoman exactly what she wants" etc. is, ironically, togive her what she REALLY wants a man who's in control
Women want a challenge. Think romance novelthemes if you don't know what I'm talking about, sityourself down for a week and read Dangerous Men andAdventurous Women by Jayne Krentz How to SucceedWith Women By Being A Jerk by F.J. Shark EndlessRapture by Helen Hazen and Bad Boys by MargiePalatini and think about it.
Most of the time, I'm enjoying myself, talking aboutwhatever comes up, making jokes, and generallybehaving like a normal person.But, like anything else, if these techniques are usedtoo much, they become worthless so they must be usedwith precision and at the right moments.
What's interesting is that because I usually (but notalways) do these teasing and seemingly controlling thingswith a bit of a dry humor spin, I believe that the womanwho I'm with has an internal response like, "Wow, thisguy is cocky, but I can't tell if he's serious or not and Iwant to find out but either way, he's funny and he'sstaying interested in me and not being flagrantlyabusive so he must be interested at SOME level"
The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be readywhen they come.Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty orwhen a woman gets upset, they say, "Oh, I'm sorry" andmess it up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay incontrol If a woman starts getting angry, instead ofgetting nervous say, "Oh, poor baby is throwing atantrum So what. You've been doing the same thingsince you were 2, and you didn't get your way."SPANK!
