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You have been finding ways to save your marriage, reading books and looking around on the internet. What you have found are mainly vague information and not readily applicable to your situation. This is not to say these tips are useless, but you have gathered them in an unstructured manner and you are a bit overwhelmed. You need clear instructions on what to do. Here are 5 preliminary steps to do before you try to get your ex back.
Take a Time Out
Of course you want to get your ex back right way. But you know this is impossible, so you have to be patient and wait it out. How long to wait depends on the severity of the break up. So you have to check from time to time the signs shown by your ex. When the signs are favorable you can take action. In the beginning couple of weeks don't do anything, give both of you time to cool down. In the mean time try to find out what mistakes you have made.
Finding the Mistakes
Naturally you will tend to see that most of the fault lies with your ex. But you have to examine yourself carefully. It takes two to tango and you have made your share of mistakes. The issues have been brewing for a long time and you both have been ignoring them until one day you have a big fight and a break up. They are usually small things that you brush off as insignificant, hopefully these things get swept under the carpet and never to appear again.
But appear they do. In your present state of mind it is hard for you to identify what the mistakes are and how to avoid them in the future.
Starting Negotiations
With the knowledge you have gain from the above report you can schedule a meeting with your ex. But not before your ex is ready, as I have mentioned above, look for signs. You should have a rough idea where you have went wrong and how to relationship should go in the future. If you still have no idea the report will tell you where to get an action plan whereby you can implement step by step. If you start to argue during the meeting it is best to call it off and wait for another time. Wait a little while longer and try again.
Do a Little Dating
If the two of you can come out of the meeting level-headed, then you can maybe go out and have some fun. Do what you both were doing together. This way you can find back the quality time that you lost during the troubled marriage. Do this regularly. Doing what you both enjoy can go a long way to repair the relationship, maybe even rekindle the spark that you had in the beginning.
Taking Action
If it has been going well it is time to draw up an action plan and carry out systematically. For this you will need expert help. And before you try to get your ex back, you must know what were the mistakes that caused the breakup, otherwise it will be the same things all over again.
No clue as to what they are? Don't worry, download a relationship report I have prepared for you - Top 10 Relationship Killers and start on the way to save your relationship.
