subject: Breaking the Pattern is the Key to Getting Your Ex Back [print this page] Breaking the Pattern is the Key to Getting Your Ex Back
Have folks been telling you that you might want to change your hair, your makeup, your clothing style, something, anything if you wish to get back your man? Are you wondering what any of that has to do with holding your ex again? It's really great advice, and it has to do with something known as "breaking the pattern." Let me explain what I mean by that.
Individuals routinely and unconsciously make connections between our feelings and our senses. In different phrases, our brains routinely associate happy emotions with what we see, scent, and taste after we're happy. Likewise, we associate unhappy feelings with what we see, scent, and taste when we're sad. Your ex did that too, on a regular basis, and utterly unconsciously. Everyone does. And that is a big problem.
Why is that a problem? Because he in all probability has loads of bad associations to your appearance. Not because you dressed poorly or had bad hair. But because your breakup caused plenty of unhappy feelings, and he has unconsciously related some of those feelings with the way you look, smell, dress, with every thing about the way in which you had been when you two split up.
Unless you do something about it, when he's near you, those negative emotions are more likely to resurface, shading his reactions towards you. This actually will not help you get back your man. That is why altering things is so important to getting your ex back.
Once you change superficial things about yourself, you break the pattern. You get rid of these subconscious unfavourable associations he has with the way in which you used to look or dress or smell. Think of it this way, if you have a new look that he's never seen before, he can't have any feelings related to it at all. There isn't a unfavorable pattern to get in the way of bringing back the love.
Whereas altering the way you wear your hair and buying a new outfit isn't some miraculous guarantee of getting him back, doing so can eradicate lots of subconscious negativity. That can only help your attempt to bring back the love.
