subject: Hope in between all or nothing [print this page] Hope in between all or nothing Hope in between all or nothing
One of the issues that is out there is the tendency to put an all or nothing spin on things., such as I'll either marry him or never talk to him again, men and women can't be friends, and if I don't make the pros I'll never play this sport again.
These views tend to be like still photos, that can be polarizing and lack anticipation, for what realistically is a level playing field where varied potentials can emerge based on what happens spontaneously, the right place at the right time, what is honed in on and paid attention to, and just how things may spin out and span out.
All or nothing may be an approach that occurs out of a perfectionist stance and standards.
It's a pure go or a no go.
This might come about from the purist spirits of things, it has got to be this way or forget it, or maybe fro watching other people who really are the top guns, and figuring emulated them is about as hopeless as successfully crossing the Atlantic in a rowboat.
The all or nothing can come about from the idea of looking at things as better or worse.
This is another thing or concept that tends to come in view, especially if things aren't viewed as better.
However the seeming stagnation of the better or worse viewpoints can be turned around and can actually become useful tools for not automatically going into an all or nothing mindset. Just because this person doesn't fit my idea of a mate on this date, doesn't mean it might be actually better to keep in touch a little bit and include this person in the circle of acquaintances or a sometimes friend.
Or, I could do worse than participate in some skiing, some hang gliding, some surfing, even though I'm not quite the biggest ski enthusiast, the strongest proponent of hang gliding, or the deftest surfer around.
At least all this is getting outdoors and doing something else from the run of the mill.
I could also do worse than meeting people as just friends or going on a date with someone from across the table who doesn't quite appear like a Greek god or goddess.
It would be worse walking in the early fall darkness in the snowfields of Alaska, climbing that foreboding mountain all by lonely self, near the breaking dawn of winter, all so you could write about this in your book and brag about it when you get back at the bar.
An adventure yes, but it doesn't match up with crooning up with some friends at the fireside as far as the measures of comfort, company and a feeling of security from the mysteries elements.
It is even worse than going with people on this trek, but you have to do it that way because no one else with acquiesce to the idea of such high risk and low visibility adventure
The audience of readers may be thrilled by your story later on as they cozy up to a book in the comforts of home or the bar brothers and sisters will love the story as they drink their favorite suds, but while you are doing this, you are for worse in terms of ease, comfort and assurance that you will get back to base camp one.
Another aspect that comes into play is whether I am dealing with fact or fiction, or is it an uncertain mix of both?
Theories verses facts.
Facts and theories might be in close proximity, and there is an ongoing blur or haziness in the mixture of what is fact and what is fiction, of what is truth and what is dare, and what is just and what is justifiable, and in the meantime I am wholly subscribing for the facts or the search for the facts when fiction is continually interwoven with the facts and the truth.
Take the old fashioned gold rush out to San Francisco or thereabouts.
That is the gold rush in the old form but it reappears in the new form or other forms in this day and age in locales like the stock markets and so on.
There are some snippets of fact involved, but lots of theory is snooping around as fact.
Yes, there was some gold out there in the West but is was only a theory that I could extract it or panhandle it myself and even if I was able to do this who gave the guarantee in that time and place that I might not be quickly robbed of this golden find?
I might not have been able to get the gold away for safe keeping, you see the movies.
There might be a little fact there or a little fact here by why do people convert into a true believer of these races to the gold pot at the end of the rainbow without rechecking their original bearings and inculpating that fiction is quickly filling in on top of the facts.
It is a fact that I just dropped and broke some variables and I tripped into some other variable items and broke them. But this fact doesn't say I am not physically coordinated as there is evidence to the contrary based on my adeptness on the sporting fields.
Despite the isolated facts, I would be telling myself a fictional story if I said I was clumsy. In fact I have even done some synchronized ice skated to boot.
Someone might get a contract for a rather large annual salary. They are rejoicing saying that all this money will enable me to do a lot of things.
But this contact is a tentative fact and a lot can happen in a year, including the disappearance of the company you are with in the rapidly chancing marketplace or the disappearance of the very currency that the contract is denominated in. Just a b out anything can run into this so called fact in stone and make it a little or a lot less than that.
Neither the fact nor the theory might survive the rapid changes.
Even fact can go to theory as the hard evidence fads; did I really say that, did I really believe that, was I really seeing things that way?
Lots of fictional waters can seep in.
Think of the mad scramble to get to the beach on a hot summer day as the place to be and be seen.
People are practically bumping each other off the road to get there, horns are honking and it is a seeming emergency to get to that idyllic place called the beach.
But that the beach is the place to be that day, is more so based on prior experience of some great beach days in the past but lots can go errant at the beach including the near fictional, such as a tidal wave appearance out of no where or a sudden rampaging storm, or a swarm of bad or hostile fish, jelly, shark like or otherwise.
Maybe this is the day the hostile gangs from city decided to make the beach their going place and everybody and everything better get out of there way.
These things going wrong aren't though of in advance, and are in the realm of fiction and not fact even though they can merge from that fictional landscape and quickly become the unforeseen facts that I didn't factor my decisions on.
Fiction and fact converge and maybe diverge but there is some unknown interplay that may arise.
As these previously unimagined and seemingly fictional happenings come up and disturb my fact patterns and understanding of them, I find I really could have anticipated something like this happening,
I could balance my sightings on the steadier stern of recognizing that the cold hard facts might not run easily through every scenario out there and a lot of what is happening is at the level of mystery. Look up at the stars and see how mysterious they are and how hard it is to grasp exactly what is happening out there and realize that some of this mystery is right here on planet earth and I'm not dealing with a separate sphere down here that can be completely handled and figured out.
The insulations, of my fact, do not sequester away the mystery that is more like fiction or seems to arise from fictional landscapes.
I might be in the reverse of this, I am at the Halloween celebration and I can't make heads or tails of who is who, but even from this chaos I can still bring out from yonder some real facts and maybe meet some real friends who I can revisit on the higher or more visible plains of reality.
The alchemy of facts, and fiction, or mystery that reveals itself as neither, demands that I back off of the all or nothing and give other things a whirl which I can't quite digest on the narrow computer screen in my living roo
The forms I expect within the day can't appear as I expect otherwise if that was the case, I would have enough predictability in hand to win the horses and the lotto.
And what about what is in between fact and fiction as so far I can't determine which it is, is that a tornado or just a near twister leapfrogging to a tornado in my mind by my unique angle of sight>
Then finally am I ruling stuff out or am I ruling stuff in and am I doing this so automatically that I am missing real signals to follow for my benefit?
Establishing that I will rule this out is not always to my benefi
There is exclusivity to ruling out things that might not be in your best interests.
And there is the opposite problem of ruling things in to much and being overly inclusive and not spreading out to the new and possibly better that is really out there somewhere and within somewhere.
There may be negative carry over that seem to bring about the ruling out of positive contingencies that might yet arise and can still be grasped upon.
First up is the overdoing of some things and slicing to much of the pie towards this or that.
People have interests like television and video games that they might be going on overdrive on and there might be some divorcing from inner work that could be done in place of this and generated outward.
They have less available time for developing personal interests and attributes
This imputes relating in time and effort that just has to be making available in such pursuits.
I rule out a vacation unless I get 5 years of work in on this in the next 250 weeks.
That doesn't leave even a week for a vacation in half a decade.
I might want to link up with any number of things or rule more in that rule more out, depending on what I am finding out.
There might be new unforeseen starting points, which are really opportunities at a base camp level.
I get to see the mountain and go to the mountain and maybe climb the mountain to some comfortable degree.
The rule out comes often from a laser beam like focus on things like taking course and studying for a test, or doing the defense work for a legal case that IS SUPER IMPORTANT.
Or at least you think so.
But degrees of importance are also in the land of the shade as well as the land of sunshine and who knows if this focus is always going to be worth it or whether you actually do get what you want with it.
The map of your own desires is also somewhat hidden to you and is only revealed in fuller pictures and proportion as you roams about a bit.
Ruling in and ruling out should be quickly adjusted to the closer reality of who you are and what you truly desire, not only yonder but here and now into the near future of your residing hopes and ongoing dreams, maybe found in the possibilities in between all or nothing.
