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Dealing With The Inevitable Sting Of Divorce

When you are feeling hurt, angry and confused, it is very

difficult to see that this is 'just' an adjustment period and

that it will get better. Your heart is broken. You may be

feeling betrayed and angry. Your whole world has been turned

upside down and you cannot imagine that your life will ever be

worthwhile again. You may even feel so bad that you think about

committing suicide.

Many of my clients have told me that one of the most helpful

things that I did for them was to help them to realize that they

were going through an adjustment phase and that they would not

feel that way forever. Although it may be difficult to accept at

the time, tell yourself that you are now feeling at your worst

and that you will begin to feel progressively better as the days

go by. The more you do to help yourself adjust, the quicker the

adjustment period will be.

Remember that you have lost many things in the process of

divorce. You will have lost your partner and the dreams that you

had of growing older together. You may have lost your home or

the standard of living that you were accustomed to. Perhaps you

have lost friends and family members who are now 'ex' family

members. You have probably lost your trust and your self-esteem.

You have to allow yourself a period of time to mourn these

losses. Just as people mourn loved ones who have died, so you

have to mourn all the things that you have lost in the process

of divorce. Tell yourself that you may be in mourning and that

you will have to help yourself get through this - but that the

time will come when your mourning period is finished and you can

celebrate a new beginning. Be kind to yourself!

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