subject: Know What To Do Before Dating Older Women [print this page] The time will come to talk about the difference in age, try not to keep reminding her that she is a lot older by avoiding comments like "Is it true older women peek sexually when they are older" or "what is your opinion on plastic surgery" Young men can be brash and lack subtlety. Here are some tips so you don't kill the mood - again!
The time will come to talk about the difference in age, try not to keep reminding her that she is a lot older by avoiding comments like "Is it true older women peek sexually when they are older" or "what is your opinion on plastic surgery" Young men can be brash and lack subtlety. Here are some tips so you don't kill the mood - again!
Does she have kids? Often dating a cougar, it goes with the territory. Dating a woman with kids is a big step. Will your mates start calling you "Dad" If you are curious what it's like to look after another's kids, tie both your legs together, turn all 3 televisions up full blast, throw in a barking dog or 2 and there you pretty much have it. Strapping yourself up to someone else's kids is a BIG DECISION!
Then you have the inevitable catch 22. If she doesn't have kids, she has you in her sights before that tiny window of opportunity disappears. Be aware of why she is REALLY having sex with you! Is she grooming you to be a Dad? instead of bedding you for the purposes of non committed casual sex?
She has been around the block probably more times than you figure, so don't assume she's a fool. A younger less experienced woman may not suspect what you may or may not get up to on a lads night out. You won't be able to get away with as nearly as much when you're with an older gal - trust me, she knows!
When you look past the sex and physical aspect, (c'mon, you CAN do it) what do you both share that is of similar interest? Different generations mean, different, everything! She grew up with Olivia Newton-John, and you have Pearl Jam thumping through your triple stack CD sub-woofer when you pick her up for your Friday night regular romp - but don't worry you'll both have something in common in a few minutes ;)
They are independent. Older women have financial security and usually have a job. The fact that cougars are not dependant on you could be a good thing or bad depending on how you look at the situation. That is, if you expect to make this all work out just by buying her things and flashing a bit of cash around, your dating out of your league. She wants your body AND wants to find you interesting. If you're looking for a material girl, go back to your own age group.
Chemistry isn't always passed down through to her friends. It's likely that her friends are living with 2.5 kids, a husband and a white picket fence. (and are probably envious of her) They are possibly worried that she's wasting her life chasing young men so be prepared for some opposition.
