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If you want to get your ex to come back, you need to be determined and be emotionally stable first. It won't be easy to rekindle the relationship, but play your cards right and you just might succeed. To help you even further, consider the common mistakes the heartbroken usually make and avoid them if you truly want to get your ex to come back you.
Mistake 1: The Desperation, the Pleas, the 100 Calls and Still Counting
To get your ex to come back to you, you need to get a grip and pull yourself together. Tears and pleas won't do the trick. You need to show your ex that you can be the kind of person they want to be with and not some weakling who can't live without them. Besides, you want to earn their trust their love, not boost their ego or make them feel sorry for you.
When you act desperate and needy, you're giving your ex reason to look down on you and therefore they'll shy away or avoid you altogether. Put yourself in your ex's shoes: would you want to be with someone who's always crying and begging? Of course not, and continuing this act will only make them annoyed and angry.
Mistake 2: Forgetting Yourself
You've forgotten how to live your life, how to have fun and how to be yourself. Well, this ends now. While it's important to grieve so you can once again get back on your feet, actually consider getting back on your feet. Don't fall and stay down, pick yourself up and start regaining your confidence.
Who would want to be with someone who spends their days moping around? Remember that your happiness and your entire life don't depend on one person. Yes, you love your ex and you want them to come back to you. But don't forget yourself on the way.
Mistake 3: The Guilt Trip
If you truly want your ex to come back to you, one of the best ways to do so is to own up to your mistakes. Don't make any excuses for your actions and certainly don't put the blame on them in the hopes of making them feel guilty enough to come back to you.
Rebuilding trust and love is a lot of work but a guilt trip is not one way to do it. You need to be sincere and prove that you're willing to change your ways to be a better person.
