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Going through a break up? Nobody appreciates what you are going through more than I. As a four time veteran of the battlefield of love, I can remember the pain, the sleepless nights, the awful taste of food, as if it were just yesterday. Well, I survived. You can make this a lot easier on yourself, and, if it is your heart's desire to get your ex back, you need to first survive the breakup.
First and foremost, you need to create the time and space that is necessary for both you and your ex to get past the searing emotions of the breakup. You need to get it together, mentally, physically and spiritually. You need clarity in your thinking to understand your emotions and the desire to get back with your ex.
And, at least for a time, you need to keep you ex in the distance and in the dark. To do otherwise, may send the wrong signals at the wrong time killing your chances of a relationship revival.
It's great to have the support of your friends and family, and, although they can play a part in this, the only one who can do this is you. You are responsible for the outcome so it is essential that you pledge to follow these key rules for a successful breakup survival program.
Do not call my ex. Under no circumstances. If you must communicate, to get your back your stuff, or something like that, do so through a friend..
Do not email my ex. Get your ex off any group address lists. Don't even forward funny emails. No contact.
Do not visit the old familiar places. This is no time to worry about lost territory. You'll have plenty of opportunity to go back after sufficient time has passed.
Do not let my friends take matters into their own hands. Well-intentioned friends can do or say things that will only back-fire. Keep them on short leashes especially if they are likely to come in contact with your ex
Do screen all calls and do not take any calls from your ex. Say again, do not take any calls from your ex.
Do not return phone calls or emails from my ex. If the message or email is anything but, "I'm so sorry. I'm a big jerk and you are the best thing that has ever happened" then it's a fishing expedition. Don't give your ex the pleasure.
Do not look at this as only temporary. Until such time as you receive huge apologies you should recognize this for what it probably is. You need to prepare for life hereafter.
Do not go into hiding. Don't play the victim because you're not. And there is no shame in what happened. A door has closed but another will always open. You'll miss it if you sit around and feel sorry for yourself.
If you can abide by these rules for at least a month or until such time as your ex calls with the right words, or until such time as you have totally moved on, you will have survived the breakup. Best of all, you are ready for whatever comes next.
These rules for Survive the Breakup, Then Get Your Ex Back, are essential. There are still some very critical mistakes to avoid. With so much at stake, it is vital to have the steady handed guidance of an expert, a coach. I found mine through ReviveOurLove.com. Go there now. And, Good Luck!
